doesn't leave voice messages

[poohead]

what does it mean, if it means anything - when a girl you've been dating for a short while stops leaving voice mail messages, but just hangs up and waits for you to see she called on caller id and call back. calls are just as frequent. does this mean anything?

 

[Macgyver]

It means she is lazy and probably thinks you don't deserve to have a nice voicemail message. Or it could mean nothing *ONLY* if she seems to have a pattern of calling you in a short time later.

 

[JonJack]

Ask her if it means anything. If you don't want to do that, then no point wondering about it. Cause seriously, who the hell can give you the 'right' answer if not her?

 

[Pimp-sicle]

I've got some insight and opinions on this question.


My last serious gf would always leave me voice messages when the relationship was at its best, even if the message was something lame like:

"hey babe its me call me when you get this."

However once the relationship started to spiral downwards she'd rarely leave messages. And once the shiat was truely hitting the fan, I would be shocked to recieve a voicemail.

As others have pointed out it also could mean she's lazy, but in my opnion if this girl was leaving you messages all the time and has suddenly stopped leaving you voicemails, there is trouble in paradise.

Have you guys been fighting or having any problems over the past few months???



PIMP

 

[Vulpine]

I'm a busy guy. When jacka$$es have 15 minute voicemail messages, I don't sit through that garbage, I hang it up and go about my business. They see that I call and hit me back. It's a pet peave of mine, all you need is a greeting, a name to confirm the right number, and a tone.

So, poohead, if you have a crazy long VM message... *click*

 

[poohead]

i've had the same message for years - it wasn't until she told me 'your voice mail message is too long' that i checked it and realized, yes, it is a little long. but now that she has pointed out that it is long, i feel like i can't change it because then i'd be trying too hard to please her.

 

[Vulpine]

Here's what you do then: you make it a big deal. Next time there are a group of friends around, and her, you ask: Hey everyone, is my voicemail messge too long? Then, once EVERYONE agrees that it is, you aren't doing it just for her. Yeah?

 

[poohead]

nice plan, thanks

 

[tihash]

I see it as a shyt test, where you can't win either way.

If you call back, you look like a chump who checks his "missed calls" regularly looking to see if she called.

If you don't call back, she might interpret this as a sign of disinterest or be pissed or whatever.

The way I handle it is to bust them on it in a fun, laidback way:

"Hey HB, I saw you called and didn't leave a message. You're lucky I saw you called... my phone only shows me the last missed call, so if someone else called after you, I would have never know you even called! Next time, leave a voicemail. I love hearing your little messages anyway."

If she does that shyt again, I call back a day or two later (not the same night) and say something like:

"Hey, did you call me yesterday? You didn't leave a v/m. You know, if you're not trainable, let me know now..." and take it from there.