"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Doesn’t she like me or is she using me? Or both?

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Been gaming this chick at the gym. After a conversation about An hour she was pretty quick to give her number when I asked her to workout with me, she was willing to drive 35 minutes to meet me at another gym. Unfortunately the weather ****ed up our plans.

We talk for a while again Saturday.

Last night she hits me up at 11 at night asking me “wyd this weekend?”

I text her I’m free Saturday and we should hit the Spanish club I was telling her about. She responds
“Can you take me to places where you think I can ask for a job to do bottle service? I want to get a job there. I’m down to do the Spanish club too though haha”
I said “yeah I can take you to some spots where they have bottle service. Just wear some tight jeans and heels lol”

She’s like “ok yayyy thankyou”

I had mentioned to her she should get into bottle service to make some money but did not imply getting her a job or ever getting bottle service I have no connection with that anyways

I thought she liked me And texting me at 11 at night was a good sign but at this point I can’t tell if Shes interested or if she’s just using me to network. Maybe it’s both. Should I pursue or no? she’s a dancer trying to “make it” in Hollywood, but at the same time me i really have no connections or made it sound like I did I just flirted with her and told her she should come out with me to some of the spots I frequent.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Probably both, I don’t see the problem here. Sounds like you made a good impression your practically making her life choices for her. Masculine. I generally wouldn’t worry about being used until it’s one sided or obvious.
 

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Try to sleep with her and find out.
Problem is she works with me. So I don't want to make a move on her unless I'm really sure because it will make things awkward. If it was a chick I didn't work with I wouldn't give a ****.
 

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Problem is she works with me. So I don't want to make a move on her unless I'm really sure because it will make things awkward. If it was a chick I didn't work with I wouldn't give a ****.
Don't sh*t where you eat.

Are your options that limited? MONEY is always more important than women. Always.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Don't sh*t where you eat.

Are your options that limited? MONEY is always more important than women. Always.
I’m my own boss so she can’t hurt my income. It would just make things akward and she could open up her mouth.
 

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If you are your own boss and she works "with" you, doesn't that make her your employee?
 

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If you are your own boss and she works "with" you, doesn't that make her your employee?
She doesn’t work for me. I’m a private personal trainer, she works the front desk at the gym I train my private clients out of.
 

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She doesn’t work for me. I’m a private personal trainer, she works the front desk at the gym I train my private clients out of.
High potential for a cluster fvck up

If you enjoy the drama go for it !
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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She doesn’t work for me. I’m a private personal trainer, she works the front desk at the gym I train my private clients out of.
Oh, okay.
 

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She willingly gave you her number......she texted you at 11pm......you asked her out and she accepted........

Its obvious that she is at least interested. Take her out, have a good time and escalate.

IMO she only mentioned "take me to a place where they have bottle service so I can get a job" for one of 2 reasons:

1.) To get you to take her to a nice place
2.) To throw out a consolation motive as an anti-sloot defense mechanism.

Go have fun with her and enjoy. Dont overthink this.
 
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