"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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does walking away actually work?

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i've tried doing this on numerous occasions recently but it just does not seem to work.. i delete their number and never hear from them again.

is it the timing of WHEN you walk away is what's critical?

it seems as if she's given you the knock back for being too clingy or full on or whatever.. you cease contact and yet nothing comes back.

i don't understand this concept and how it works.. at what point should you walk away?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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pete101 said:
i've tried doing this on numerous occasions recently but it just does not seem to work.. i delete their number and never hear from them again.

is it the timing of WHEN you walk away is what's critical?

it seems as if she's given you the knock back for being too clingy or full on or whatever.. you cease contact and yet nothing comes back.

i don't understand this concept and how it works.. at what point should you walk away?
You have to build enough attraction in order to get this to work. If you walk away leaving no impression on her, why would she call you?
 
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pete101 said:
i've tried doing this on numerous occasions recently but it just does not seem to work.. i delete their number and never hear from them again.

is it the timing of WHEN you walk away is what's critical?

it seems as if she's given you the knock back for being too clingy or full on or whatever.. you cease contact and yet nothing comes back.

i don't understand this concept and how it works.. at what point should you walk away?

How far did you get with her before you walked away?
 

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Vlad the Impaler said:
How far did you get with her before you walked away?
I slept with her the first night we met.. then i stayed the night.. then got guilt tripped into spending the next day with her like she wanted to be a couple, i went along with it and it felt ok for a minute.. then somehow by the end of the day she thought i was too full on and clingy when it was her who was acting and initiated acting like a couple!

i proceeded to make major AFC rules by trying to figure out why she suddenly became distant the next day.. then she told me i was too full on. so i told her i'd walk away, seems like she'd already made her mind up and nothing i'd do or not do would work.
 

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drtk said:
You have to build enough attraction in order to get this to work. If you walk away leaving no impression on her, why would she call you?
this is true.. but what if you built up enough attraction then lost it by becoming clingy and needy?

if u decide to walk away after she rebuffs you.. is that too late?

i've had this happen numerous times and it seems i don't walk away at the critical moment.

even right now im suffering it whereby i was suppose meet this HB for a 2nd time yesterday but she flaked on me..

ok her reasons were valid but a flake is a flake and i got p*ssed off so i kinda told her in not so many words to give me a definite time where she wouldn't flake.

the 1st time she did it she was leaving the country for a week and had to see her best friend and close friends the night we were suppose to meet.. we had only been on one date but i still felt agrieved.

yesterday she wasn't able to leave the house as there was only 1 set of keys and her family were out so if she went out there'd be noone to let them back in.

now she isn't picking up my calls. b1tch.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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pete101 said:
I slept with her the first night we met.. then i stayed the night.. then got guilt tripped into spending the next day with her like she wanted to be a couple, i went along with it and it felt ok for a minute.. then somehow by the end of the day she thought i was too full on and clingy when it was her who was acting and initiated acting like a couple!

i proceeded to make major AFC rules by trying to figure out why she suddenly became distant the next day.. then she told me i was too full on. so i told her i'd walk away, seems like she'd already made her mind up and nothing i'd do or not do would work.

Sounds like you did fine and she has the issues... but.. did you lay the pipe good?
 

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Walking away isn't really supposed to be a gambit. True, sometimes the girl will start contacting you--usually if you've been together a while and she's invested in you. However, walking away should be something you do for YOU. It is the only way to handle lose-lose situations, such as a girl telling you she "needs space." If a girl has any desire to see you, she WILL make contact, even if it's as subtle as including you in a mass "merry xmas" text. Girls don't call ex's for no reason.

Of course, it shouldn't matter anyway. From the moment you walk away, you need to cross her off your list. There are just TOO MANY single girls out there to waste time dealing with lose-lose situations. You're not really walking away if you're trying to get her to call you, you're just playing a silly game. Leave the games for the women folk.

P.S. - A trick to get women to feel invested in you--have her do things for YOU. Ask her (nicely) to cook for you, drop something off at the post office for you, bring something over, etc. She will interpret it later as having done those things because she loved you, and it may be enough to for her to want to come back. Then...DON'T TAKE HER BACK!
 
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