Yeah, I can actually identify with some of the crazy behavior that women exhibit out of insecurity.
Every once in a while I'll be inconsiderate towards a girl I'm dating just to make sure that she's not only sticking around while she's getting treated very well. I mean everyone needs to be treated well (maybe everyone was an over-statement), but some women expect to be treated like a princess all the time and will act the part as long as they're getting more than they're putting in.
Seeing that kind of behavior (testing her willingness to tolerate my inconsiderateness), which is out of the insecurity that a woman might be dating me for the 'perks' or 'treatment' rather than because she and I really jive, makes me better able to understand why women go to the extreme of putting a man through the ringer, and even breaking up with him, in order to feel like they're in control of things and to reassure themselves that he really wants to be with them. If she breaks up with him and he walks away, then she tells herself that she did the right thing, because if he came back to her then he'd really have wanted to be with her in the first place.
I'm not saying it makes perfect sense, but I can understand that damaged women do that kind of stuff.