"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Does this HB get the gate?

The Comeback Kid

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This past weekend, I got the # of a HB8 at a party. Yeah I know, pretty big stuff. :crackup:

It just so happens the chick is in one of my lectures. I don't sit by her most of the time considering I didn't know her till this past weekend, but I do sit with a friend I made in the class, a HB9 ;). HB9 is 3.5 years older than me and in a LTR with a guy who doesn't go to the same school we do, and I'm not even going to try and make an attempt there - even though she touches my arm all the time, wants me to sit by her each class, asked me for my number, and has called me a couple of times when she had a question about something obvious in the class. So today, the interesting question was "Which of these girls do I sit next to in lecture, since they don't sit near each other at all?" Well, I talked to HB8 before class, so I sat with HB9 (the right decision -we have good rapport). When talking to this HB8, she would talk and contribute a little bit on her own, but I was the one really getting the conversation off the ground. I got the feeling that she could be a little bit stuck up and wants guys to chase her.

Do I like her? No, or atleast I hope not (we have a week and a half left of school). I guess you can say I am very intrigued and wondering what is up with this girl. She is hot, but doesn't flaunt it (meaning she doesn't wear things that are obviously revealing - in fact, she wears sweats to lecture a lot). She could very well be single, but I am pretty sure I am the only guy who approached her at the party this past weekend. And while I don't talk to girls online (usually in person, or by phone as a 2nd option), I can't find her Facebook at all, no matter how many different combinations I try (just about everyone in college has a facebook). And to answer the question of "Why do I even care about this chick on any level?", the answer is that knowing another chick well, namely an attractive one, doesn't hurt, and would at the very least give me social proof down the road. Also in college, it's good to have girls numbers when you are searching for a party. :whistle:

I am intrigued because she is an enigma. However, I am also considering giving this HB8 the boot b/c all of this may mean she wants guys to chase her and thinks she is a princess.

Any real thoughts here? I feel I have absolutely nothing to lose here (that's my new mentality with all girls now). That's probably the reason why I may have been the only guy to approach her (my friend spotted her too, but he apparently thought of her as atleast a HB9 and he couldn't say anything b/c he was real nervous).
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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