"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Does this girl want me?

SamMalone

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I work with my girl (amanda). A new girl started there a month ago(hallie). Hallie became tight with Amanda. Hallie has a boyfriend of five years, but she tells my girlfriend that she wants to experience other guys in bed because she has only been with her boyfriend.

Anyways, Hallie has been getting pretty close to me and is flirty around me (although she is flirty with all the guys I've noticed). She also told me some stuff about my girl that I got upset about. My girl also told me that this girl always says negative stuff about me when my girl talks about our future, but always positive stuff otherwise. Then today this girl asked if I wanted to get an apartment with her in the spring?

I seriously don't get a vibe from this girl, and she is talking about marrying her boyfriend in two years. My girl is paranoid that she is going to try something though, and I think the getting an apartment thing is too foward for someone trying to be more than friends to say.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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katatonia

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SamMalone said:
Anyways, Hallie has been getting pretty close to me and is flirty around me (although she is flirty with all the guys I've noticed).
ATTENTION WH0RE.

99% certainty she doesn't like you and is just using your reaction to her flirting to prop up her ego.
 

SamMalone

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That doesn't explian why she would tell my girl stuff and would ask me to live with her though. I think this girl is just being friendly.
 

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Of course she is an Attention Wh0re.

But she is also a snake in the grass, and sounds like a nutcase too. Who the hell asks people they just met to get an apartment?

Perhaps the answer lies in my question. Where are the BPD experts?

You ever hear the saying, "Don't sh!t where you eat?" You would do well to write it down on a post-it note and keep it in front of you at work. This girl is going to be nothing but trouble, it's only a matter of time before guys are fighting over her, women are fighting with her, and heads shall roll.

You should maintain conversational relationships with people at work, that's it. Don't get wrapped up in the inevitable storm cloud of drama on the horizon, stay away from this one.
 
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