"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hockey Playa

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Ill try my best to explain this. This may sound pretty bad and self-centered, but do you ever have a conversation with people and you just dont give a f*ck what theyre saying? Say you meet someone you havent seen in a year or so, and your asking them a bunch of questions about their life. Than if you walked away, five minutes later you probably wouldnt remember a thing they said to you. I feel like ,while theyre talkiing, im just preparing what im going to say next, and not even listening to what theyre saying. Im thinking people usually catch on to this. If i was telling someone about my life, i would hope theyre listening and give a damn about what i say. Kind of a double standard i have. Maybe alot of people feel like this, and it comes down to the saying people only care about themselves. Can anyone relate?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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yah read that crimson, i agree with most of it. This topic also reminds me of Fight Club, where tyler says people only listen to what he has to say, when hes at the meetings with people who are going to die. Usually people just wait for their turn to speak.

I work as a bank teller, so im constantly talking to people every minute a new person. It gets really tiring pretending to be nice to people, and asking how their days going.
 

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yeah i like people who just say "good" to "how's it going" and we go do cool **** together.

i hate people who go into their fvcking day like they have a monopoly on problems...i just cut them off, say BRB and never come back. who do they think i am? dr. phil?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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