Does this ever happen to you? - Losing interest?

[gbmack]

So you're interested a girl you like, she holds a higher value than you, she's all that, etc.

so then you try hard to get her. it's tough, but you persist. you call her, flirt with her, and things go alright, but she's still the "one." a month or two later, one day, just like that, you finally look at her a total different way.

now she's the one initiating everything, she is happy to be in your presence, you now hold more value than her, you start losing interest and not giving a ****, and everything dies down because she has already been "won"

my question is, does this happen to you, and how do you deal with it? a few times i look back a year or two and think to myself "damn, i shoulda gotten with that girl!" but i simply didn't because i lost interest.

i feel as if i think the game ends right when your value becomes higher than hers...

 

[AlexLefty]

Yeah I actually started to notice this a while back haha.
So I basically took some time to think about and digest it, and what I came up with kind of made me sad.

This is preDJ times, before I improved 100% by coming here (there's still a good 1000% to go though). I would see a hot chick, and somehow end up talking to her, maybe not then, but we would make eye contact and I would just let the pieces fall, and we would eventually talk to each other sooner or later. She's hot, im nervous, the end result is always in the back of my mind to end up fuking her. But of course, this never happend. Why? Because I didn't persu, or as you say "I Lost Interest". And it's true, I did loose interest, but not because I got bored of her or I noticed she was ugly...the problem had to do with myself. My self esteem was actually so low that simply conversing with this girl would raise it sky high. I can see now that really my plan was always just to be friends with the girl. Why? Because I was talking to her! Oooh so cool! Not really...Because my self esteem was so low, I also didn't have the guts to persu her further and to try and get some ass. Talking with her game me the temporary boost I needed...which is not good.

So as you look at this and wonder why it's happening, I suggest you look at yourself, before you look at her. The reason you're losing interest is most likely a fault of your own, not of hers. It was for me atleast.

Hope this helps.

 

[Gears of Led Zep]

Yeah I actually started to notice this a while back haha.
So I basically took some time to think about and digest it, and what I came up with kind of made me sad.

This is preDJ times, before I improved 100% by coming here (there's still a good 1000% to go though). I would see a hot chick, and somehow end up talking to her, maybe not then, but we would make eye contact and I would just let the pieces fall, and we would eventually talk to each other sooner or later. She's hot, im nervous, the end result is always in the back of my mind to end up fuking her. But of course, this never happend. Why? Because I didn't persu, or as you say "I Lost Interest". And it's true, I did loose interest, but not because I got bored of her or I noticed she was ugly...the problem had to do with myself. My self esteem was actually so low that simply conversing with this girl would raise it sky high. I can see now that really my plan was always just to be friends with the girl. Why? Because I was talking to her! Oooh so cool! Not really...Because my self esteem was so low, I also didn't have the guts to persu her further and to try and get some ass. Talking with her game me the temporary boost I needed...which is not good.

So as you look at this and wonder why it's happening, I suggest you look at yourself, before you look at her. The reason you're losing interest is most likely a fault of your own, not of hers. It was for me atleast.

Hope this helps.

This is really good advice, because I looked at what you said and i see that in myself a lot....a lot more than I would like too. Simply making conversation and making her laugh made me feel like the man but looking at that in retrospect, that is really sort of lame if all we do is talk


So yea AlexLefty took what I was going to say ha

 

[gbmack]

Thank you for the great advice.

there was my greatest problem: my self esteem was too low i didn't have the courage to escalate to the next level. i have to escalate.