Does the outer self change your inner self and self-image?

[Lordeterra]

I've always tried to deny my outer self will have an effect on my inner self as i believe that its a weak way to gain self esteem and confidence. For example i put myself in a situation where what happens if my legs got cut off or my face got heavily disfigured. I still want to feel self worth. But i have to say getting big in the gym has made me feel more manly and made me feel more sure of myself and a dgaf attitude. Does your outer self have that big of an effect on how you view yourself? Is there an evolutionary advantage to this? Like what even is beauty. If society never even chose what is beautiful or not would we till know what is considered aesthetic? I think so as animals like the peacock and the lions mane are visually appealing to the opposite sex. Is it symmetry? I know this is a lot of questions but i believe this question can have huge potential and ill be active as im genuinely curious.

 

[RickTheToad]

No. As with anything in life, it takes work. It's best to setup a plan to work your inner self aside your outer self in order to attempt to achieve what your inner (mind) and outer (body) goals are in life. Even then, you will have an internal battle within yourself as your mind, since your a dude, will continue to move the goal post striving for your to achieve higher and higher goals and aspirations in your life.

 

[r4zorsharp]

Not completely. Let me give you a very real anecdote.

There was a guy I worked with named Josh. He was pretty good looking, seemed confident, but after a few years he seemed like something was bothering him. He ended up getting a nose job to I guess make himself feel more confident. Nothing was really wrong with his nose before, it was just a bit curved.

He told me after he got the nose job, he thought he would be more confident instantly and feel like a new person.. But that it didn't happen and later he regretted it because he felt like it changed the way people perceived him and that he lost some of his unique charm.

 

[Lordeterra]

Not completely. Let me give you a very real anecdote.

There was a guy I worked with named Josh. He was pretty good looking, seemed confident, but after a few years he seemed like something was bothering him. He ended up getting a nose job to I guess make himself feel more confident. Nothing was really wrong with his nose before, it was just a bit curved.

He told me after he got the nose job, he thought he would be more confident instantly and feel like a new person.. But that it didn't happen and later he regretted it because he felt like it changed the way people perceived him and that he lost some of his unique charm.

i would never do surgery for that reason.

 

[Georgepithyou]

A lion also needs to be strong enough to protect the whole pride, he also has to fight off other lions that come to take his position

 

[Who Dares Win]

Lets not confuse utility with aestethics despite what we usually find attractive in someone is because that things is a sign of health or strenght.

Growing your muscles dont make you confident cause you are prettier, it grows your confidence cause you now know that problems can be dealt more easily or better yet they will go somewhere else (Im clearly making it very simple here).

Same thing if you get a degree in something very technical that few people can do, your inner self improves cause your arsenal now has more tools in order to reach wealth, security and a stable income despite the harsh times.

This is not the case for people that change their hair color or grow a beard given that the improvement doesnt really grant anything beside looking a little bit different.