Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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does the lead up to xmas affect a girl's lonliness and can u use it to ur advantage?

drift king

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say u started dating a girl beginning of december/end of november and u mess it up somehow within the first week or so. if u know she was really into you physically and in general but somehow u turned her off with your afc-ness.. with xmas coming up can u use that to your advantage to get her back?

she might be feeling lonley.. we're assuming here she doesn't have a stream of guys she pick from and isn't necessarily a HB7+ etc.

can u make up for your prior mistakes wishing her a merry xmas and hope she does well in whatever she does and say it's a pity the two of u couldn't have made it into something more?

i know girls feel lonley around valentines but does it apply to xmas too?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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You should probably move on.

If you need to 'exploit' something in a woman to get with her the relationship is doomed to failure anyway, as youre both doing it for the wrong reasons.

That being said, if your goal is to trick the girl and you think you can, then it depends on her situation. She could have lots of family, etc, and be very hung up in the past, etc, or she could not. If you really want her back you should go with genuine honesty, integrity, and joy, first to yourself and then to her.
 

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That's the Christmas spirit right there....
 

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im thinking more along the lines of i've only started dating her and haven't banged her yet and want to do so.. do i stand a better chance utilizing this holiday as a point of contact?

she's not talking to me anymore and refuses to take my calls.
 
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