Does the Distance thing work on you guys?

[solange]

So, I broke up with my girlfriend for another woman and she went away in a pretty classy way. No contact from her and now I want her back. I know it works on chicks, but does the same thing work in the reverse? Do women know this? Doe sit work on you?

 

[WesCottII]

Nope.

If I broke up with a woman, it'll be for a damn good reason.

What you're experiencing is what I like to call "dumpers remorse", where we create a picture of what an amazing person this "ex" was, while in truth the reality was somewhat different.

I can gaurantee she's thinking about you, but somethings stopping her. Maybe she's smart and knows YOU dumped HER for another woman, and has no interest in you.

Women who do this, tend to be women who have options. Maybe they already have someone new, and maybe have many suitors in line.


It's life. You have to close your mind to her, and move her on, because even if you did get back together, the problems from first time around, are still there.

 

[ready123]

definately! a lot of these tricks are based on social psychology and were used extensively in marketing and sales. social proof was a sales technique before it was applied to pick-up. that's why always hear crap like "3 out of 4 people prefer...". anyway, her leaving is a scarcity technique. you want what you can't have, what's hard to get. not saying she's doing it consciously, she probably doesn't really care about you anymore, but it's why you feel the way you do

there's a book out there called Influence by Robert Cialdini. it's a short read, and it's really good at helping people understand some of the key techniques people use to influence each other. that book is also where PUA's got the phrase "social proof" from

being able to consciously recognize and understand these tricks is how you become immune to them

 

[jesusrules]

just find another chick. youll feel better.

 

[solange]

thanks for the responses. I didn't really date her long enough to have any problems. She was pretty awesome, I had just been waiting for my new girl to become available. When she did I felt as if I had to pursue it. I just can't seem to get her off of my mind. And, yes, she is def the type of woman who has men waiting in line and I don't think she is game playing...F*#k! That makes it even worse.