"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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does she wanna be my girlfriend?

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downsickness06

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There's this girl i like that goes to my high school. I have known here for a month or so and we never got really serious. Yesterday she asked me to go to the mall with her and i told her i hate shopping. She said ok and we changed plans to go somewhere else. Later that day we went over to one of her friends' houses and hung out there. There were a couple other of her friends that met us there. We all went into the parents' room and we watched some tv. Eventually the others wanted to go and grab some beer but the girl i like and I stayed. She wanted to play tetris on my phone and she kinda slipped her hand into mine and said to hold her. She said she suddenly felt sick but i think she just wanted to latch on to me. So we kinda cuddled for a bit then she asked me if i wanted to go to the park. We did and later as we got tired we sat on the bench with her friend there and she put her head on my shoulder and i put my arm around her.

All of this stuff happened and i just wanna know if shes wanting me to ask her out. By the way, one of her goofy friends asked her out a couple days ago and she rejected him and told me all about it.

So does this girl want me to be her boyfriend? And was she telling me about her friend who asked her out cause she wants me to do the same thing? Also she kept looking at me all night does she want a kiss from me or what?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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OMG - have you read any of the stuff posted before your pointless post?

Really - This has been covered so many times. If you don't know what to do after reading the old posts on similar topics then I look forward to avoiding your post in the future. :D
 

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(Deliberately being better than dropping to a "flaming" level)
 

Jariel

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Kiss her!!

You have all the green lights a guy could ask for. Don't analyse, don't ask questions, don't hesitate, because sooner or later you'll either talk yourself out of it or she'll lose interest. Don't even ask her out.

Just wait for a moment when you're alone together, hold eye contact, gently raise her chin and kiss her. Girls like men of action and spontenaity.

The worst that will happen is she will pull away, but even so you have your answer and just saved yourself days, weeks or maybe months of wondering.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I think girlfriend might not be the next step, but she's definetly interested in you.

Also Jezz is right, you need to read more before you post things like this.
 
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