"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Does she like me? Is she using me for attention? Should I text her?

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Okay, so to start off, this girl seems great. We are both juniors in high school and we both have cars so we can go out.

We would always stare at each other so one day I decided to go up to her. I got her number and she seems really exited when I talk to her in person. But when we text she takes forever to reply and makes excuse but seems happy to text me. After a short period of time I stupidly decided to asked her to be my girlfriend. She told me she really likes me and but she just feels like she barely knows me. She said that later that day. She randomly came up to me to tell me. So I'm trying to get to know her but here comes the mixed signals.

She always touches me and rubs my arms and tried to hold my hand. But then she takes forever to text back. I also saw her flirting with another guy by touching his arm and laughing with him right after I walked away from her. And she told her friend the we aren't really "talking" yet. I'm just so confused.

Does she like me? Should I text we everyday? I really want to ask her to go hangout sometime but I don't know if I should. Please help guys. Also it won't b awkward because we both have cars so it's not like our parents would take us. Is she using me just for attention or does she really like me?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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christoff522

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Djprep said:
Okay, so to start off, this girl seems great. We are both juniors in high school and we both have cars so we can go out.

We would always stare at each other so one day I decided to go up to her. I got her number and she seems really exited when I talk to her in person. But when we text she takes forever to reply and makes excuse but seems happy to text me. After a short period of time I stupidly decided to asked her to be my girlfriend. She told me she really likes me and but she just feels like she barely knows me. She said that later that day. She randomly came up to me to tell me. So I'm trying to get to know her but here comes the mixed signals.

She always touches me and rubs my arms and tried to hold my hand. But then she takes forever to text back. I also saw her flirting with another guy by touching his arm and laughing with him right after I walked away from her. And she told her friend the we aren't really "talking" yet. I'm just so confused.

Does she like me? Should I text we everyday? I really want to ask her to go hangout sometime but I don't know if I should. Please help guys. Also it won't b awkward because we both have cars so it's not like our parents would take us. Is she using me just for attention or does she really like me?
Basically..you need to make her chase you a bit. You're acting kinda needy. She's interested it seems but the problem is you're badgering all the interest out of her. Not only have you put her on a pedestal you're kneeling at it worshipping her. Just remember that she needs to impress you..not the other way around.

Talk to her, act friendly do the kino. But instead of asking her to be your gf, ask her out bowling, or to play pool or something.

And stop moaning about the length of time it takes to reply via text. Shes a woman, they're slow and cannot multitask!!
 

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christoff522 said:
Basically..you need to make her chase you a bit. You're acting kinda needy. She's interested it seems but the problem is you're badgering all the interest out of her. Not only have you put her on a pedestal you're kneeling at it worshipping her. Just remember that she needs to impress you..not the other way around.

Talk to her, act friendly do the kino. But instead of asking her to be your gf, ask her out bowling, or to play pool or something.

And stop moaning about the length of time it takes to reply via text. Shes a woman, they're slow and cannot multitask!!
Should I text her today though?
 

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You young DJ's... :rolleyes: Yes she does seem to like you, strike while the iron is hot kid!! She gave you her number, ask her out on a date already!! You wait too long and she might see you just as a friend...
 

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Krueg said:
You young DJ's... :rolleyes: Yes she does seem to like you, strike while the iron is hot kid!! She gave you her number, ask her out on a date already!! You wait too long and she might see you just as a friend...
How early in advance to ask her on a date?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Djprep said:
How early in advance to ask her on a date?
Some guys say wait 3-4 days after getting a number. You dont want to come off as desperate or needy.. I'd say atleast wait a day or two. If you like her and she "likes" you, it doesnt matter - you by pass all the B.S. and she wont play games.

I might of mis-read you. If your asking "when" to set up a date... Whenever is convenient for you. If she has HIGH INTEREST she will say YES and follow your LEAD!
 

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Krueg said:
Some guys say wait 3-4 days after getting a number. You dont want to come off as desperate or needy.. I'd say atleast wait a day or two. If you like her and she "likes" you, it doesnt matter - you by pass all the B.S. and she wont play games.

I might of mis-read you. If your asking "when" to set up a date... Whenever is convenient for you. If she has HIGH INTEREST she will say YES and follow your LEAD!
Can I ask you one more thing? I tried texting her today and she never responded. But a mutual friend which is a girl is texting her and she's responding to her. What does this mean?
 

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It means for whatever reason she doesn't want to txt you. Listen you need to ask her out if she says no let her go. Your a junior in high-school and women are fickle as hell during this time. You need to be going out and having fun. She probably is already thinking that she has you wrapped around her finger. If you let her think this then all your gonna be is an Orbiter. Sounds to me likes its already to late but ask her out and if she flakes or anything then don't waste your time.
 
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