The Loner
Don Juan
Hey DJs,
I've been reading this site for about a week now, and it's been mildly helpful. I have an interesting case, however, so it's probably my situation more than your techniques.
I've known this girl, let's call her Amy, for years and years, since I was 9, at least. She's beatiful, probably a 9.3 on the looks scale, but I would rate her an 11 in my book. She doesn't come any prettier either in the looks or the personality.
I'm homeschooled, which means that I see few girls on a regular basis or even long enough to become friends. The same holds true for the rest of the homeschooled boys in our support group, so as you can imagine, Amy is pretty popular. Because of not knowing any other girls well enough (Or seeing them on a regular basis) just giving up on Amy isn't an option, unless I want to be a loner until I get a car.
Boys have flitted through her life lots of times but currently there is my little brother vying for her attention, and me. Just a week ago there was another guy, but he left town for several months and can not call her either due to phone bilz
So by now you're thinking "Surely this guy can beat his little brother when it comes to getting a girl... especially when the girl is but 8 months older than him and 3 years older than the little brother!" ...wrong.
Amy's whole family has been living with us while their new house is finished being constructed. They have lived with us for a whole month, and they will live with us for at least two more weeks. Therefor, lil bro gets to be around her all the time. He doesn't love her, he merely likes people laughing at his corny jokes. He doesn't care what she thinks, or her jokes, or whatever, he just merely wants her to laugh at whatever he says.
I'm not a particularly funny guy. I'm more on the sensible side. I can converse intelligently on most any subject a girl would talk to a boy about, and if all else fails I can simply look attentive and ask intelligent questions. But I'm hardly funny.
Let me give you a brief timeline of what has happened while she has been here:
One of the first days she was here, we were doing school on opposite couches. She mentioned something funny about her book, and I took the oppurtunity to go sit next to her and look over her shoulder. When she was done, I was a bit presumptuius(sp) and said "Oh, you'll get it" and gave her a brief side hug. She seemed annoyed, and I felt like she was avoiding me after that. Lil bro had no crush on her at this time.
Two days later, I can't get her to pay any attention to me. She is out riding her bike and I ask her to wait up. I then say:
"Amy, are you avoiding me?"
"Uh..."
"Be honest, pls".
"No, I don't think so... just depends what kindof mood I'm in".
"Ok, if you are avoiding me, just say so. I can get over it, but don't lead me on."
She didn't say anything, and I went into the house and avoided HER for the rest of the evening.
Two days after that, she seems better, and I invite her to a board game. Afterwards, we're all alone picking up the pieces, and she springs the question on me... "What did you mean the other day, about me avoiding you?"
"Oh... *fumbles around wondering what's going on* I just felt like you were avoiding me, whenever I said something you would go away, stuff like that".
"Oh... I didn't mean to come across that way"
And then we finished, and we went to get a drink, and I said, "Good nite, Amy".
"Good nite!"
I was in pretty good spirits that night.
So things continued, we had fun, nothing else physical other than pillow fights.
Until this last week, when lil bro started hitting on her. He's much more charming, has a ton of jokes, but has no sense and is completely stupid sometimes. He also never brushes his teeth, he stinks to high heaven, and never comes his hair, etc.
But he has charm, and now I can't get a word in edgewise with Amy. It's not like she likes him, as much as being entertained.
It's harder and harder to find fun things to do with Amy because he keeps taking them all.
Now, I feel like Amy won't pay as much attention to me as she used to. I read about girls being shy the more she's attracted to you, and I feel it may be that, but I'm not sure.
Lil bro picked some flowers for Amy this afternoon and gave them to her. She put them in her hair, with just a "thank you" nothing special, not a "Oh thank you "lil bro" these are so special", just a "thank you" like she had to say it.
She wrapped them in her hair and they looked really pretty, so we were alone in the kitchen and I said "Those flowers look nice, what kind are they?"
"The kind that are in the back yard!" *she blushes*
"No, I mean what kind are they?"
"I don't know, they kindof look like roses"
"They look really pretty"
"I didn't make them... they just grew in the backyard"
"No, but you tied them up in your hair" and I reached out and stroked the flowers.
She didn't say anything, I didn't get to look at her face, she put down her glass and walked quickly out of the room. Not like she was annoyed, just like she didn't know what to think and had to get away.
So there you have it. She's gone now, I don't know what to do, I'm so confused. On one hand, she may be crazy about me and doesn't know what to do about it, so she avoids me to avoid the confused feeling, on the other, she may really not be attracted to me at all and not know what to say about it.
What do you guys think? Please remember that I can't just go and get another girl... this is the only one I see on any regular basis.
If it really is a hopeless case (Which I HIGHLY doubt) then I will submit to being a loner until I get a car.
Thank you for bearing with me this long.
- a loner.
I've been reading this site for about a week now, and it's been mildly helpful. I have an interesting case, however, so it's probably my situation more than your techniques.
I've known this girl, let's call her Amy, for years and years, since I was 9, at least. She's beatiful, probably a 9.3 on the looks scale, but I would rate her an 11 in my book. She doesn't come any prettier either in the looks or the personality.
I'm homeschooled, which means that I see few girls on a regular basis or even long enough to become friends. The same holds true for the rest of the homeschooled boys in our support group, so as you can imagine, Amy is pretty popular. Because of not knowing any other girls well enough (Or seeing them on a regular basis) just giving up on Amy isn't an option, unless I want to be a loner until I get a car.
Boys have flitted through her life lots of times but currently there is my little brother vying for her attention, and me. Just a week ago there was another guy, but he left town for several months and can not call her either due to phone bilz
So by now you're thinking "Surely this guy can beat his little brother when it comes to getting a girl... especially when the girl is but 8 months older than him and 3 years older than the little brother!" ...wrong.
Amy's whole family has been living with us while their new house is finished being constructed. They have lived with us for a whole month, and they will live with us for at least two more weeks. Therefor, lil bro gets to be around her all the time. He doesn't love her, he merely likes people laughing at his corny jokes. He doesn't care what she thinks, or her jokes, or whatever, he just merely wants her to laugh at whatever he says.
I'm not a particularly funny guy. I'm more on the sensible side. I can converse intelligently on most any subject a girl would talk to a boy about, and if all else fails I can simply look attentive and ask intelligent questions. But I'm hardly funny.
Let me give you a brief timeline of what has happened while she has been here:
One of the first days she was here, we were doing school on opposite couches. She mentioned something funny about her book, and I took the oppurtunity to go sit next to her and look over her shoulder. When she was done, I was a bit presumptuius(sp) and said "Oh, you'll get it" and gave her a brief side hug. She seemed annoyed, and I felt like she was avoiding me after that. Lil bro had no crush on her at this time.
Two days later, I can't get her to pay any attention to me. She is out riding her bike and I ask her to wait up. I then say:
"Amy, are you avoiding me?"
"Uh..."
"Be honest, pls".
"No, I don't think so... just depends what kindof mood I'm in".
"Ok, if you are avoiding me, just say so. I can get over it, but don't lead me on."
She didn't say anything, and I went into the house and avoided HER for the rest of the evening.
Two days after that, she seems better, and I invite her to a board game. Afterwards, we're all alone picking up the pieces, and she springs the question on me... "What did you mean the other day, about me avoiding you?"
"Oh... *fumbles around wondering what's going on* I just felt like you were avoiding me, whenever I said something you would go away, stuff like that".
"Oh... I didn't mean to come across that way"
And then we finished, and we went to get a drink, and I said, "Good nite, Amy".
"Good nite!"
I was in pretty good spirits that night.
So things continued, we had fun, nothing else physical other than pillow fights.
Until this last week, when lil bro started hitting on her. He's much more charming, has a ton of jokes, but has no sense and is completely stupid sometimes. He also never brushes his teeth, he stinks to high heaven, and never comes his hair, etc.
But he has charm, and now I can't get a word in edgewise with Amy. It's not like she likes him, as much as being entertained.
It's harder and harder to find fun things to do with Amy because he keeps taking them all.
Now, I feel like Amy won't pay as much attention to me as she used to. I read about girls being shy the more she's attracted to you, and I feel it may be that, but I'm not sure.
Lil bro picked some flowers for Amy this afternoon and gave them to her. She put them in her hair, with just a "thank you" nothing special, not a "Oh thank you "lil bro" these are so special", just a "thank you" like she had to say it.
She wrapped them in her hair and they looked really pretty, so we were alone in the kitchen and I said "Those flowers look nice, what kind are they?"
"The kind that are in the back yard!" *she blushes*
"No, I mean what kind are they?"
"I don't know, they kindof look like roses"
"They look really pretty"
"I didn't make them... they just grew in the backyard"
"No, but you tied them up in your hair" and I reached out and stroked the flowers.
She didn't say anything, I didn't get to look at her face, she put down her glass and walked quickly out of the room. Not like she was annoyed, just like she didn't know what to think and had to get away.
So there you have it. She's gone now, I don't know what to do, I'm so confused. On one hand, she may be crazy about me and doesn't know what to do about it, so she avoids me to avoid the confused feeling, on the other, she may really not be attracted to me at all and not know what to say about it.
What do you guys think? Please remember that I can't just go and get another girl... this is the only one I see on any regular basis.
If it really is a hopeless case (Which I HIGHLY doubt) then I will submit to being a loner until I get a car.
Thank you for bearing with me this long.
- a loner.
