"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Does she have a right?

Remulak

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So a friend of my girlfriend and I happens to be a girl and me and the girl happen to be very good friends. We talk on the phone a few times a week etc. The other night the girl asked me to go drinking with her at a local bar but really thought nothing of it because there's no romantic interest we're just friends and we all have been for a while now by the way I've been with my gf for 6 months. I told my girlfriend about it and she was pissed she didn't want me and the girl going out alone and she's starting to get very jealous about it. So my question is ...is she justified in being pissed about this or should I go anyway.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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realsmoothie

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No, she's not justified in being jealous.

If she can't trust you to hang out with some other girl who's just a friend... well...

But I wouldn't just go hang with your other friend unless you're prepared to face the consequences. Girls aren't logical, so you may THINK she shouldn't be jealous, but if that's the way she feels you can't just turn it off.
 

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1. Why did you tell her about it?

2. There is a good way and a bad way to tell people things.

The Bad: I was out drinking with you best girl friend last night.

The Good: I was out drinking with a couple guys last night, your friend was there too . . .

The fact that she is pissed means that she actually cares, about what . . . that's harder to say.

She definately has the right to be pissed, just try to stay away from the subject, and PLEASE don't forget the little white lie once in a while . . .

If your relantionship is at all serious, this will blow over very quickly.
 

Remulak

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MisterNigma said:
1. Why did you tell her about it?

2. There is a good way and a bad way to tell people things.

The Bad: I was out drinking with you best girl friend last night.

The Good: I was out drinking with a couple guys last night, your friend was there too . . .

The fact that she is pissed means that she actually cares, about what . . . that's harder to say.

She definately has the right to be pissed, just try to stay away from the subject, and PLEASE don't forget the little white lie once in a while . . .

If your relantionship is at all serious, this will blow over very quickly.
I told her because I didn't think she would get pissed about it, this other girl happens to be both of our good friend so I didn't think she would get jealous about it. We all used to go out together and hang out.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Remulak said:
I told her because I didn't think she would get pissed about it, this other girl happens to be both of our good friend so I didn't think she would get jealous about it. We all used to go out together and hang out.
If you all used to go out together it should of made you question why she asked only you to go out with her. Then you tell your GF about it. What was she supposed to think? Why shouldn't she get pissed if someone who was supposed to be friends with the two of you only invited you and not her?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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