Does She Deserve to Get Nexted?

[Hullothere]

Ok been dating this girl for about 3 weeks now. Been spending the night together maybe 3 times a week. It took me about 3 dates to seal the deal. Well last night while we were laying in bed she gets a call from some dude at about 2am just asking her what shes doing and if she went out that night. She gets off the phone with him after about 1 min of talking. About 10 mins later her phone starts ringing off the hook, 4 times in a row to be exact before she answered it. Im not sure if it was the same guy but he claimed to have locked himself out of his place and wanted to sleep over her place. She lives by herself. She kept trying to get him to sleep somewhere else but her persisted. So she said she would call him back. She then proceeded to ask me if it was ok if the guy slept downstairs on the couch. I replied with a *wtf* face. So she calls him back and says to please call one of his other friends and ends the call. I then ask her who the guy is. If it was an ex bf, whatever. She said it was just a friend and then got annoyed that I asked her about him and replied "I dont feel like i have to explain myself, you know what kind of girl I am".

Now I honestly am not jealous nor do I care who this other guy was. I could care less if shes dating all types of guys while im not there but I feel like since she answered the call right f'in next to me at 2am I deserve some type of explanation of who he is. I mean I don't answer calls from other girls when Im around this chick, isn't it disrespectful? What do you guys think about this situation?

 

[KontrollerX]

Yes, it was disrespect.

If she had nothing to hide she would've told you who the guy was to her right away no problem.

So yeah I think it was probably some other guy she was leading on.

Don't next her just play it cool and use her for sex while searching for someone else better for you if a good relationship is what you're looking for.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

She's just use to dealing with AFC's, are you going to hold that against her?

 

[Hullothere]

well i did kinda hold it against her. I gave her the cold shoulder for the rest of the night and she kept calling me "mean". I dont want to come off as jealous because i genuinely am not. I could care less and easily move onto other chicks. Its just the disrespect and comment that really pisses me off.

 

[Hullothere]

How do I let her know that **** isn't tolerated without appearing jealous?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

How do I let her know that **** isn't tolerated without appearing jealous?

Give her "You should know better" look. BTW, the only thing that seems a bit of a stretch was her asking if her friend could stay over. However, you could have easily positioned yourself as the lead dog if you chose to agree. You could have done anything from only allowing him to sleep in the garage to letting him sleep downstairs and listen to the two of you have freaky, circus weasel sex. Whatever choice you made, you could have controlled the situation without coming off as jealous if you took a moment to fully consider he situation.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Give her "You should know better" look. BTW, the only thing that seems a bit of a stretch was her asking if her friend could stay over. However, you could have easily positioned yourself as the lead dog if you chose to agree. You could have done anything from only allowing him to sleep in the garage to letting him sleep downstairs and listen to the two of you have freaky, circus weasel sex. Whatever choice you made, you could have controlled the situation without coming off as jealous if you took a moment to fully consider he situation.

Agreed. You definitely came off as insecure and jealous. You two are only dating right now, so chances are if she answered the phone and then got off, she would have told you who it was and why she answered it. And if that chump wanted to spend the night thinking it would just be him and her, he would have been in for a crazy surprise when he saw you there. As Francisco mentioned, you could've fuvked the shiat outta her while he was downstairs hearing the play by play.

Some of you newbies over-react too much. Its good to not tolerate bs behavior, but you have to learn what is and what isn't worthy arguing over.




PIMP

 

[Obsidian]

hah, you do know what kind of a girl she is -- She's a hor.


But no, I don't see anything particularly disrespectful about this incident. She was just trying to get the guy to leave her alone. (The smarter thing to do would be to just turn off the phone, but girls are too stupid to do that.)

And while Francisco's advice sounds good in theory, I think you were better off not letting that loser guy into your house.

 

[bigjohnson]

I don't see the issue - it's just a call on her phone, and she kept it brief. The staying over thing was even not such a big thing except for the potential for a scene if he was a jealous ex. The worst thing was the 40 questions you asked, but it's tough to be at your sharpest 5 seconds after being awakened.

 

[vorbis]

you need to relax!

you've been dating her for 3 weeks?!
at this stage, you shouldn't be at all concerned by stuff like this. I mean are ye exclusive? I'd agree with you if she'd answered the phone and had a long chat if ye were at say a restaurant.

But in bed ... my gf has answered the phone sometimes in situations like that and i just zone out. It shouldn't be such a big deal to you.

 

[st_99]

In another month or so you'll know what this chic is all about and thats really all that matters. FORGET ABOUT THE DETAILS FOR NOW.

Till then you have to seriously try very hard not to get too attached. 3 nights a week over her place sounds like you might get a bit emotional
if you find out she's a playerette or a hor or something...

 

[Obsidian]

btw, why are you spending so much time with this chick so soon?

Been spending the night together maybe 3 times a week.

If you do think she's losing interest, it may be that you're smothering her a bit.

 

[Hullothere]

i cant say that im emotional. The fact that she was talking to a guy doesnt bother me at all, its just that it was in front of me and she asked if it was ok if he spent the night on the couch. I kinda thought that was disrespectful at 2am especially with the way she answered my question.

But yah you guys are probably right about the 3 days thing. I usually only go there late at night to fuk but i'll cut back on it. Im not really interested in anything long term