"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Does seeming gay help with the ladies?

ChapStick

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Phyzzle said:
It is alleged that the PUA Tyler Durden has made out with his male friends before in order to lower a chick's shield at a nightclub.

In his defense, this is not as gay as doing magic tricks.
Well a lot of chicks say that all the hot guys are either gay or they're jerks. I would not be able to do something like Tyler Durden just to lower some chick's shield. That's just ridiculous!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I was thinking about this the other day (wondering if playing the gay card works).

I tested it out on a girl who I knew is married, just from random chit chat. Surprisingly, it wasn't that big of a deal. Shes like "OK cool. I'm still married."

I only tested it once, but it was a disaster in my book, so I dont think I'll be using it again in the future.
 

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Seeming gay only works with the ladies if she knows you are not gay, but only affeminate, less masculine, and she happens to dig that. You will usually find this dynamic when you have a straight man who is feminine, with a straight woman who has more masculine energy. Dominant/masculine woman and submissive/feminine man.
 

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Gangster Of Love said:
You will usually find this dynamic when you have a straight man who is feminine, with a straight woman who has more masculine energy. Dominant/masculine woman and submissive/feminine man.
Dude, I think you got it right on the money. It's something I've noticed a lot! Those hot women who are very dominant usually have a boyfriend who is less masculine.

Another thing I've noticed is if a girl is closer friends with her mother, then she's more controlling and a whole lot more into mind games. If she's closer friends with her father, then she's more likely to be submissive. I could be wrong, but it's something I've noticed personally.
 

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would you really want to act gay just to pick up chicks?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Obsidian said:
would you really want to act gay just to pick up chicks?
It's not that I'm acting gay to get chicks, but some chicks think I am... They might think I'm gay because fashion interests me, I work out at the gym, I have very good hygene, I pay close attention to detail (I pay especially close attention to things pertaining to my appearance)... I just like to take care of myself, and the fat slobs that don't take care of themselves poke **** and say that the only reason women hang out with me is because they think I'm gay.

I've noticed that some of the best PUA's seem a bit on the fruity side for some reason. Look at Style. A self-proclaimed, "world's greatest pickup artist." When I first saw him on a TV interview, I instantly thought, "gay!"

I don't want to change my way of life to attract women, but instead make who I am work for me.

To be honest, my biggest problem with women is having the balls to make a move. Women are approaching me!! In my past I had such a low self-esteem that it's hard for me to envision that these women could actually be attracted to me!

I think that women sense my insecurity even though I put on a sometimes fake display of confidence. Actually a lot of women who have met me have told me that they never would have guessed I was insecure or shy. Many women tell me that when they first met me they thought I was stuck up or gave off a jerk vibe. Ugh.. I don't understand anymore!

While writing this, I'm more convinced than ever that I should start bettering myself even more and surrounding myself with more positive people who don't get jealous when I tell them about some girl that approached me and tell me **** like, "because you look like a pretty boy."
 
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