"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Does Porn Make You AFC???

Tyrone Biggums

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I was thinking one day that pornography addiction may have caused me to become AFC around women. Hoping to copy certain "acts" which intensified my desperation for a sexual relationship with a woman and to have a girlfriend. I've also rejected women in the past that where possible relationships because they weren't physically "perfect". A body image in my head based on years of looking at models/actresses in magazines and videos. It seems as though when I don't look at X rated material for a while I start seeing women as human beings and not as objects. But porn still has a hold on me. What do you guys (or ladies) think?
 
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Kerensky

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I've never really seen pornography before like Playboy or videos or anything like that to tell you the truth. However, I'd read about stuff and seen some random pics over the net that have been exposed to me in some way through ads and whatnot.

Anyhow, I feel that is it detrimental in the long run and whatever I've been seeing I am trying to give up along with masuturbation.
 

LuvMyArmyMan

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Porn really isn't that good for you. Just reading what you said and how it made you see women and feel certian things, if i were you i'd lay off of it. You have to realize that porn is a FANTASY and NOT reality! there aren't women out there! and YES, porn stars have physical flaws! its called airbrushing! please quit watching porn if you want to get back into reality where the real women are. its good that you realized it tho.
 

belividere

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from your post it does sound like more of a problem than a positive.
 

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I think it definitely hurts your game. You get this false image of women, plus the more you jack off the lazier you'll get (in both life and in pursuing women. Notice how I said life first, because THAT should be your top priority). You need to focus your horniness on obtaining a woman. I'm not telling you to start humping legs or anything, but women respect a man who is open about his sexuality (I don't mean in a bisexual way either) more so than the guy who always hides his.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I think porn owns and i love it and try to watch it at least once every couple of days.
 

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I'll tell you what's AFC, asking people if something is AFC. A true DJ doesn't really care what others think about him. You shouldn't either, porn is good for ya. It helps me remain faithful :up:
 

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porn cant make you afc, only you can make yourself afc
 
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