"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Does personality even matter?

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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So if all you care about is sex? Pay for it and drive on. Seriously.

@The Duke is spot on in this thread....and I too have seen men without attractiveness on their side charm their way into seduction, like @Gamisch said.

Seduction is much more interesting and fun than what you are doing OP. But seduction requires paying attention to your target, learning her likes & dislikes, learning how she "ticks".

You really don't seem to have the patience for that. So pay an escort & call it good. If you want to learn seduction, read Art of Seduction and pay attention to Anti-Seductive behaviors (there is a whole chapter on this)....you are unwittingly doing anti seductive things and you are way too formulaic. This ain't algebra dude.
 

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dude go back and reread your post .
I don’t wanna copy and paste it yet again.
I’ve edited my last post there. Read the endy bit it’s the important part re DARK TRIAD and also about DOMINANCE being the acfual most important and most attractive ‘personality ‘ trait the women respond to in a man they find physically attractive.

And none of you guys have mentioned it so far.
It’s Allpha Male vs Beta male stuff.

The tall Alpha guy is highly assertive he just uses frame control to dominate and lead.

Or else the shorter Alpha guy uses his social IQ and machiellian mind to dominate and lead more mentally .

BOTH Alpha types will be HANDSOME.
Because being HANSOME is an Alpha trait.
Good genetics = alpha genes.

The Beta guy tries to Game with his ‘personality’ .
And falls for the womans bullsh1t about needing ‘that connection first’ - while she investigates his possible other resources . In detail. It’s a con job for her to buy the time to play detective and get the sucker to open up. So she can have a real good look, really easily. Cos “guys are easy” to women bro . “Guys are so dumb” .
You're clearly on the spectrum and / or trolling.

You had me for a good minute tho!
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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@Cheeky_James The way you want this game to work only works when you are extremely attractive. Lots of social proof and money can help as well but superior looks is the ultimate driver.

Oviously you don't have superior looks as most of us don't, so its critical that you develop other traits/characteristics that women find attractive. It seems like you refuse to do that.

You want to exert little effort and have pu$$y served on a silver platter. The best advice I can give you is to visit your local escort and pull out $200. I don't imagine you would need more than 30minutes.
 

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@Cheeky_James The way you want this game to work only works when you are extremely attractive. Lots of social proof and money can help as well but superior looks is the ultimate driver.

Oviously you don't have superior looks as most of us don't, so its critical that you develop other traits/characteristics that women find attractive. It seems like you refuse to do that.

You want to exert little effort and have pu$$y served on a silver platter. The best advice I can give you is to visit your local escort and pull out $200. I don't imagine you would need more than 30minutes.
Dude consider this
If this is the game strategy

Let’s call it EverythingMaxxing approach.
(Ive copied this from another post by Gamisch)

-Patience maxxx
-Money maxxx.
-Fitness maxxx
-Mental health maxxx
-Social skill maxxx
-Touch grass maxxx
-Self esteem maxxx

Right? Roughly speaking.

Now, take an example of an average woman call her Jane .who has had 3 LTRs by age 30 and those relationships did not work out.

Ask her why , and the answer will always be
“He turned out to be xyz” , too boring, too controlling, too mentally unstable, too lazy, too something. right ?

And if the success rate of marriage is about 50/50 also .

what does that tell you about a womans requirement for that certain right set of ‘personality traits’ and her ability to detect and judge personality?

And how important was ‘personality’ when she first met him .. if he “turned out” to have another personality after X number of years?

Answer me that question , (all of youse)
Use your brain guys.

a womans primary interest in a man is sexual interest.

women choose men primarily and most largely based on their sex appeal initially, at the start of any relationship
.

thepersonality is discovered later in the relationship. And if his actual complete personality does not work for her 1 year, 2 years, 3 years more into the relationship , they break up or divorce and she moves on . To another guy with similar sex appeal.

And usually a different personality

and then another guy, with yet a different personality .

so when women say they “have a type”
it’s a Looks Type .
Not a personality type.

Because personality doesn’t really matter that much early days, when engaging in the fvcking-like-rabbits dating phase , the first year or so.
It’s all about having lots of sex and good times.
As that’s how Mother Nature wants it to happen , to make more children and propagate the species.
The guy just has to have any generic pleasant personaility.

Now guys,
please try and pick this example of Jane and her 3 LTRs . And proce me wrong about the rest of it.

re your assertion that personality matters to any significance is so much more correct. :rolleyes:

Thanks. CJ






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