Does My Unusual Background Spell Disaster?

[Dwight]

Hey everyone-Found this place and thought you guys sounded knowledgeable and might be able to help.


I grew up in a rural area far from city life. My father passed when I was three. My family homeschooled me till senior year of highschool. Now I never minded it as it gave me more time to spend doing things loved. But not being around alot of women or having that fatherly influence to teach me about connecting with women has been tough.


I'm now in my Junior year of college and kinda at a loss when it comes to women. I really don't have confidence issues and actually find women attracted to my laid back confident attitude. Problem is I just don't know how to make a connection or where to take it from there so I just ignore them, which usually increases there attraction briefly but ends up with nothing else happening.


I'm a quite guy who is pretty happy on his own but is scared they'll never find someone to share life with. I guess the confident bada$$ is my alter ego I put on to cover it up.I'm looking for a nice girl not really interested in hooking up with tons of people or anything like that. Any suggestions? I have a lot of missed lessons to learn. Where can I start?

 

[slaog]

Women are attracted to guys that make them feel good. When you ignore them you're not pushing their feel good buttons and they might actually think you don't like them.


So my advise would be to treat them like little girls. Tease them and joke around with them. Tease them about something unusual they're wearing or joke about women drivers or something like that. Tell them a funny story etc.

 

[Joe Stud]

you are a junior in college, and you're getting scared you may not find someone to spend your life with? Think about it. Average age expectation today is maybe 75. when YOU are 75 (in over 50 yrs from now), average life expectancy will probably be 90, with medical technology. So basically, you are maybe 22 yrs old, and worrying about rushing to get a life partner before you run out of time... in 68 short years from now. Think about it. relax. Theres plenty of time. Stop with the excuses (lots of boys go to "all boy" grammer & high schools - poor female contact) and still develop into DJ's. Read the DJ bible, even if you are a slow reader... you have almost 70 years my friend!

PS... I "found that wonderful soulmate" and got married at age 20.5 yrs old. after 5 yrs I got divorced. i wished the he!! I took it slower.

 

[dap]

Go out of your way to befriend guys who are good with girls, and just do what they do. You have to be OK with failing a few (or many times), but you will be learning along the way and will get lucky a few times too. Finally, don't go looking for your soulmate. If your soulmate is out there, she will want you to be comfortable around girls before you two ever meet. You get this by getting experience first with girls who aren't your soulmate.

In summary: Find guys who are good with girls, learn from being around them/watching their interactions with girls, try/fail/be successful many times, don't worry about your "soulmate," because she will only notice you once you can handle being intimate with girls.

Good luck!