Does Mindset matter the most?

[PeasantPlayer]

On nights when I go when my mindset is insecure and unsure I just fall flat trying to bag women for the night. It makes me overthink and doubt and everything else. When my mindset is going right and I am confident in myself and looks The nights go well, from my personal experience. How much does mindset matter? You think you can have a bad mindset and still pick up chicks or vice versa?

 

[Tictac]

In all things.

 

[adam225]

Your mindset is EVERYTHING. And I mean EVERYTHING.

 

[LorenzoVonM]

Mindset is king. The thoughts you chronically think are drilled into your subconscious to form habits. Once there, they become auto-pilot behaviors that we don't really consciously think about. However, they are manifested outwards into words and behaviors. I don't think trying to hold a conscious mindset is very helpful though. If you have deep programming that goes against what you are force feeding yourself, you are going to be incongruent in how you come across. Its best to just try to shut conscious thought off and stay present in that situation.

 

[zekko]

Mindset is king. The thoughts you chronically think are drilled into your subconscious to form habits. Once there, they become auto-pilot behaviors that we don't really consciously think about.

Overcoming habitual negative thoughts is something that is very difficult to do. I used to suffer from this, and I spent a long time being alert to cutting off negative thoughts when they arose, and replacing them with more positive thoughts. This takes a lot of commitment, but if you can replace the negative habits with positive habits, it's worth it.

 

[adam225]

That is the idea of hypnotherapy. It worked wonders on me. My head was a total mess before I had it. It's amazing.

 

[Serenity]

Having the right thoughts in the first place is important, then you have to get into a good positive mood. You can start out with a bad mindset, if you just keep approaching and talking you will eventually get in the right mindset. You can also be in a very good mood and just have fun instead of approaching. I commonly have that "problem", I'm in such a good mood that I don't bother trying to do pick-up and sometimes I've rejected girls who approached me.

Ultimately the mindset does the job. Every time I've had success I have been in a state of flow. This one time I was actually chasing this girl in a night club, but I was amused by it. Ruined the chances of 5 other guys who approached her during the night. If she was talking to some other guy I just went over and made out with her, it was hilarious.

 

[Mike32ct]

Mindset is very important. It's critical.

 

[PlayHer Man]

Mindset is absolutely the most important thing. If you think like a faggot you will act like a faggot.

 

[JoeMarron]

I believe it was the illustrious Pook himself who used to quote the phrase, "As you think you shall become."