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Does Masturbating Prior to Sex Help Increase Stamina During?

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This has probably been asked before. But do you guys find, that in order to last longer during Sex, it is better to abstain from masturbation for a day or more beforehand, or to masturbate 3-4 hours before, if possible, in order to last longer.

Which method have you found more successful and any additional thoughts?

I had quite a funny problem with my girlfriend. First 1-2 times we had sex, I had a trouble holding an erection (she was very tight and the condom kept slipping off). Next 6-7 times it was great... lasted long, no problems with technique, she loved it, last 2 times i've gotten too damn excited and come within 5 minutes!

Live and learn eh!

Opinions appreciated.
 

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I need to ejaculate 2-3 times a day...my gf isn't always available during the day time so I take care of it myself.

I definitely notice lowered sensation the second and third time around...definitely helps me to last longer.
 

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Whether it does or not, its better to not develop a mental crutch. Study more on things you can do to increase your stamina the first time and no, I don't mean do tricks that will take away your enjoyment (like thinking of your grand-maw).
 

Chrispy

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Breathe more deeply
do more foreplay
don't masturbate before - it just kills your own pleasure for the real thing
 

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go down on her---- concentrating on the cleeeet, get her nice and juicy, then let her get on top of you and do her thing for a while, this will kill more time until you can put her in the postions that you really want....

As long as you take care of her first, you're fine.
 

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You can last longer. I'll often bust one that afternoon if i know i'm having sex that night and i haven't released in a few days. Otherwise sex that night is kind of annoying because it becomes more about controlling not cvmming too soon rather than relaxing and enjoying it like women always do.

I might not bother if it's condom sex since that's like rubbing your d1ck on a dirty tire and takes a concentrated effort TO cvm. Of course the only time not to use a condom is in a trusting relationship where you rule over her with an iron fist and get her on birth control. I'd seriously dump a girl who wouldn't get birth control because condom sex sucks.\


By the way do they make mid-sized condoms or what? I swear normal sized ones are too small and just constrict things and are painful to put on but i'm not a freakin horse that needs the huge magnum ones that bunch of up.
 

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Part of the reason you come so soon is because of masturbating.

Think about it-

Masturbation is inherently a mechanical habit. We condition ourselves from an early age to come and come quickly while squeezing our d!ck and simultaneously looking at porn or visualizing whatever turns us on.

Im willing to bet that most guys not in a steady relationship jerk-off more than they get laid. And almost everyone started with jerking off before they ever had sex. So when you DO get laid, your conditioning kicks in and you tend to bust to soon.

When you feel like you are about to come, stop all movement, kiss your girl, breathe in her ear, or something else sensual, and continue when the feeling passes. This way you can sort of "re-train" yourself to have control over when you go.

I wont spank it before sex. I feel like thats draining my sexual energy. I know that's completely un-scientific, but I want to save all that stored heat for my woman. The older i get the more i hate masturbating.
 

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Lasting longer is entirely in the head. The more you want to cVm the faster you will. There are tricks to hold back,
some being deeper breathing and slowing things down...

remember to do lots of foreplay so the girl is satisfied.

I think it's a waste to masturbate beforehand....you get no satisfaction from the real thing. That would not be fair!
 

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Practice masterbating without coming and increasing your stamina, its what I've done when I'm in a LTR and I notice I'm starting to come to quickly. Its very difficult because when your jerking, you just want to come, practice going to the point of almost climax, then stop, once you calm down, go again, repeat over and over again, I would say make sure it takes you over at least to 10 to finish yourself off, at the minimum.
 

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Fuglydude said:
I need to ejaculate 2-3 times a day...my gf isn't always available during the day time so I take care of it myself.

I definitely notice lowered sensation the second and third time around...definitely helps me to last longer.
God damn bro, seriously? Thats alot, really. I mean, I like to release some testosterone daily too, but jeez. I guess whatever works for you, that just seems a bit excessive, but then again everyones sex drive is a bit different too.

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As far as masturbating before sex, I have mixed feelings on it, as do most people. While it will help you develop a "tolerance" of sorts to sexual activity, there is one major downfall to it. If you masturbate daily, you know that you usually don't spend that much time doing it. Seriously, when I'm doing it I'm done within 5 minutes. This can lead to a formed habit of getting sex over with quickly, you build up this habit of getting right to the point and not truly experiences the pleasure of sexual activity, instead just rushing to the end for the orgasm.

What I try to do is limit myself to once or twice a week. If it has been a while since I got laid (a week or so) and I know that I'm either getting laid that day or have high chances of it, I'll clear the pipes just to give myself a little bit of an edge.

You can increase stamina in countless other ways, masturbation might be easiest and quickies, but it also caries risks, some of which I haven't mentioned. (e.g lowered sex drive, reliance on your hand for pleasure, reliance on jerking off for stamina, chaffing (kidding))

Try looking into some other alternatives. Sexual meditation, for one, my girlfriend and I practice this all the time, its quite erotic and really helps in tons of different ways. Kama Sutra and Tantric Yoga as well. Or just finding a girl who's got a high sex drive and likes to have sex multiple times a day will always boost your stamina. An ex of mine used to like to **** 3-4 times a day, when we broke up, the next girl I nailed was so amazed by my stamina she must have told every girl in the lecture how long I lasted. Do some research, google always helps.
 

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Methuselah, I don't think needing to blow your load 2-3 times a day is that excessive, although my gf does say I have a pretty high sex drive. I think most women really like it when a guy has a high sex drive. I'd like to learn more bout that sexual meditation stuff tho...sounds cool.

If I don't blow my load regularly (like atleast once that day), I can get pretty sexually aggressive: last night, after working a 14 hour day on 3.5 hours of sleep, i phucked my gf like a hor. Threw her around lots, pumped hard and fast, lotsa hair pulling/choking, sayin lotsa filthy stuff. Left a hand print on her ass from smackin her there. I blew my load on her face and boobs, and put it back into her ***** after and kept pumping her...I stopped cuz I felt bad because she probably wanted to clean her face off haha.

I almost feel like I lose control if I don't jerk it regularly...I don't know how you only do it 1-2 times a week. I think sex is intrinsically violent. Women, in my experience love to be sexually dominated. My gf loves to be ordered around sexually and told what to do. I've asked her lots and she says it turns her on to be sexually submissive.
 

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I pull out, nut, and then stick it back in. Makes it last longer for me.
 

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healthguide13 said:
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It's good to get the easy one out of the way.
 

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Dude, it depends on YOU.

For me, if the girl lives with me, I can fvck her and cvm quick, within 10 or 15 minutes. But then if I just met her sex could last for more than 1 hour. Either way if I jerk off before hand I find my d1ck goes to sleep during sex.

You definitely have anxiety with sex. I lost all my anxiety after I fvcked a girl for one and a half hours, not only that I met her that same day online, and our date only lasted about an hour, drink coffee, take a couple fast foods, drive to place dark and lonely. After that I had sex when d1ck would fall asleep, when I wouldn't even cvm, when it lasted quick. How long you last depend on YOU and your partner.
 
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