Does it seem needy...

[DJ Axton]

...if you get someone to tell someone else you like them? I go to college (UK, so it's more high school than uni), a place where relationships don't work like they do in the real world, and there's a friend of my mate's that I think is pretty attractive. I'm not in any of the same classes as her and apart from him I have no link with her whatsoever, bur rather than doing a cold approach, I wondered if things would turn out differently (or even better, due to us being in a school environment) if I just got him to say to her "my friend thinks your fit" or something along those lines.

I always thought this was needy, but I've seen this done recently with success. What does everyone think?

 

[Analyzeit]

Never get a mate to tell them you actually like em, but to be honest i've seen a mate saying to a chick "my friend thinks your fit" go along way as long as its done right and I'm sure you know what i mean

Get him to do it if you want, then just approach her in a day or two, that way if she rejects you cold she knows and she definitely doesn't feel the same way

Everything on this website says go against it, but HS a lot different its just hard finding where the difference is

I only say try it because, as with you i've seen it done with plenty of success, so i don't see what could go wrong as long as your mate doesn't say anymore then that it should be fine.

I personally like the idea i feel that it lets them know that your interested, without saying he is so into you he would do anything so make sure you don't make it look like you would do anything still be the man

but really thing shouldn't turn out much better then just a cold approach but i definitely see how it could help things along

tell me how it goes

 

[magickarl]

Don't want to seem like a jackass, but that doesn't seem so much needy as wuss-move and possibly creepy if you've not met her.

Better solution: Have your friend ask the girl to go hang out with him to do something, and then have him invite you along too. Then you can tell her you think shes cute in person.

 

[kraytkiller]

Uh...not something to be doing...Tbh it sounds like a girl thing to do. Instead of having someone tell her, show it to her through actions or something.

 

[Captain]

Whatever you do, don't get somewhere else to tell her that you like her.
It takes away the mystery, it's just not good. If you told her yourself, it's needy (generally.) If she knows you told your friend to tell her, it's one of the worst things you can do.

 

[Analyzeit]

But thats exactly the point, hes not saying that he likes her, coz she is not sure and if she isn't she will really want to know, and i think that that is how it works