does her suspecting you're seeing other girls really raise her IL even if she's not?

[big weezy]

can her suspecting you are seeing other girls raise her interest level or bring it back up if it's so low that it's almost non-existent or would she not care if she's lost interest completely?

 

[the_great_gaia]

in my past experiences, if my girl (at the time) had low interest in me, and she suspected I was seeing other women.. this is what usually happened..

- She didn't care at first, and just saw other guys

- She got jealous, and started paying you a little more attention.. but not enough

- Started calling me, and threatening me with false promises and ultimatums (most women don't want to lose us, and would rather wait until they can replace us then kick us to the curb)

- Rare cases, her interest level returned, but it didn't last long.. and it came down to her nexting me or I nexted her..

 

[pdx1138]

if they have even a remote level of interest left in you but don't show it, absolutely it can weezy.

one girl I liked and was friends with (but didn't like me "that way") began showing massive jealousy whenever she heard me talking to this girl on the phone....we eventually had a s3xual fling.

another one that I'd stopped seeing changed her mind after hearing about a girl I started seeing and wanted to get back together.


To them it raises your value since other girls are interested.

It's all about getting that hamster spinning in their minds.

 

[DonGorgon]

can her suspecting you are seeing other girls raise her interest level or bring it back up if it's so low that it's almost non-existent or would she not care if she's lost interest completely?

only if she is very physically and emotionally attracted to YOU..

 

[pdx1138]

one thing I left out if she has other viable options....it's less likely you can draw her back.

 

[floydb25]

This is the same as being a challenge... It ONLY works if the girl is attracted to you. Dating other girls right after you break up isn't as effective as when they're initially chasing you, and their attraction is still high.

I'd also warn against dating around with the intent of getting back with someone. This doesn't work the way you think it does. It's usually an ego, control, competition, or entitlement thing. Much like when someone acts jealous, and sabotages your relationships, but never dates YOU. Just because they don't date you - doesn't mean they want you to date, or focus your attention on someone else.

They might chase you, act jealous, and complain, but once you go back to them, their interest will decrease again, and you'll be right back to where you were at before. That's because their attraction didn't increase, and they weren't pursuing you for you. It was all the other variables at work.

The best thing to do when someone loses attraction for you is to leave it alone. You're facing an uphill battle, and can never be certain what their intentions are. Some girls are simply selfish.

 

[DonGorgon]

one thing I left out if she has other viable options....it's less likely you can draw her back.

what do you mean "if she has options" even the ugliest fattest hos have more options than most men do..lol