"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

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Does getting drunk before a date help?

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I'll admit it, I'm a bit of a ***** and I get nervous really easy, also very excited. Like I can hardly sleep before dates sometimes because I'm excited even though I don't know wtf I am excited about. lol.

I think it impedes on my game and effects my performance and actions on dates. I would really like to calm down a little.

Lets say for example, I have a date, would having a few drinks before, so im just a bit tipsy help? Liquid confidence?

Usually when I'm drunk I am a bit more physical and confident.

Any thoughts?
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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if your date is gonna last more than an hour or so, I wouldn't really recommend it because then you'll feel nervous when your buzz wears off. You could maybe take something the night before if you're having trouble sleeping, I guess. (I've had that problem, too, although it definitely diminishes with experience.)
 

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I really don't recommend people using alcohol to help their game other than for their own enjoyment and within the context of social gatherings, but getting tipsy has helped me sometimes take away anxiety problems.
 

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deal with the deeper fear instead of trying to mask it

why exactly are you nervous?
 

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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

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More times then not alcohol will make you think your mack daddy but in reality you probably look like a sloppy son of a b*tch. Probably not the message you wanna send if you wanna be taken seriously.

Where's your pride man? You want a girl to focus on what you have to offer which ain't a damn thing when you're balls deep into a fifth. Five years ago I was a horny nervous mess everytime I had a vision of getting my d*ck wet, but you put yourself in enough positions to gain experience and learn what works for you and it will click for you one day. Not always a flat road though.

Drink your fill, but do it with your boys. Stay sober before the date. Good luck bro.
 

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:down: Defiantly don't drink before a date. The only time I could see that being acceptable is if you were in at a bar or a party where it would be normal. Also even if it did work for you once or twice it seems like that would make a very easy gateway to becoming an alcoholic! Not many girls would find it attractive if you showed up to a date smelling like liquor either.

If you are nervous and think a drink or two might help, why not meet her at a pub for a drink. If you have some attractive female friends get them to help you out and "accidentally" show up at the same place, have them join you and talk you up. This happened to me, I didn't plan it out but by the end of the night I was thought of as a god by the girl I was on a date with.
 

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i have to disagree and say why the hell not?

it's gonna get you more comfortable but i would only drink a shot or two of hard liquer and nothing more because you can't smell like boose

i heard magnesium can calm your nerves too
 

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The right thing to do would be not to drink as everyone said but if you need a little something then by all means, do what you need to, to get successful. However I would say, only have enough to get a shine on, don't get drunk.

Also don't drink during the first 1.5 hours of the date either, you don't want to get drunk on her. If you can't not drink after a few, then don't bother having a few before.

Like everything else in life, its about effective management, if you can manage it then go for it, if not, then its going to be even more of an impedient.
 

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Somebody told me that they are a super nervous flyer and she takes this pill her doctor gaver her before she gets on an airplane and says it relaxes her and stops her from being a nervous wreck when there's turbulence. I wish I remember what that medicine was called. Anyway, I don't see why it wouldn't work for a date too.
 

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Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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saber said:
i have to disagree and say why the hell not?

it's gonna get you more comfortable but i would only drink a shot or two of hard liquer and nothing more because you can't smell like boose

i heard magnesium can calm your nerves too
Best bet is just tell your pal who's a DJ to take her out for 'ya; it's the best way not to deal with the real issue.
 
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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Best bet is just to your pal who's a DJ; it's the best way not to deal with the real issue.

???
 

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guys who never get play that tell u to not drink have no idea what they are talking about.

YES have a few drinks if that is what will make u feel comfortable enough to escalate into sex.......make sure to drink with the girl too, it kinda creates a "party date" environment and everything goes more fun that way

dont be a boring hard headed overanalyzing chump
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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If she showed up drunk to a date with you, would that be a turn-on?
 

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dude youll look like an alcoholic. how can u go drunk on a date. she will def notice it.

im so tired of going on dates that i cant get myself interested anymore. i have to drink redbulls to make myself happpy and upbeat so i can get into the date
 

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CORVETTE06 said:
dude youll look like an alcoholic. how can u go drunk on a date. she will def notice it.

im so tired of going on dates that i cant get myself interested anymore. i have to drink redbulls to make myself happpy and upbeat so i can get into the date

mints/gum and she wont know u drunk

its much better to be tipsy and fcuk the girl on the 1st date, then to be sober and not even hook up with that same girl

use logic - getting tipsy before a date wont kill ya chump azz
 

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spax said:
I can hardly sleep before dates sometimes because I'm excited even though I don't know wtf I am excited about. lol.

I think it impedes on my game and effects my performance and actions on dates. I would really like to calm down a little.

Lets say for example, I have a date, would having a few drinks before, so im just a bit tipsy help?

Usually when I'm drunk I am a bit more physical and confident.

Imagine your date was a little drunk before you got together and you could smell the alcohol on her. Would that turn you on?

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Be so good they can't ignore you.
 

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Imagine your date was a little drunk before you got together and you could smell the alcohol on her. Would that turn you on?

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Be so good they can't ignore you.

why do virgins feel the need to give any kind of advice on how to seduce and fcuk a girl?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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