"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Does Expressing yourself hurt you?

hotcypress

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I realized this after I finished a U.S. Govt class one day. This was a debate oriented class, and I live in the Bible Belt, which really doesnt look kindly on people that slant towards the left on many issues. This girl was giving me really good signs plus I have known her for a while and she is cool. So i go up to her and see if I cant fish for a few interest indicators. We end up getting into a discussion where she flat out tells me that she judges how good a person is by if they are christian and what their beliefs are.

Now the forums here say always speak your mind, and I do many times. So I smiled it off and tried to argue that people can still be good people without being christians.

I'm not sure if the Northeast or West encounters this problem as much but I know many people in the South do, especially in rural areas like I live in. There is no way in hell that I will change my stance, but how much does speaking your mind really help you if no one supports what you are saying?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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fbplayer06

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If she's going to judge you like that, I'd have nothing to do with her. You deserve better than that.
 

Luscious

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One more reason why religion and politics are topics to be avoided until you really know her.
 

JSH

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well, if you want a relationship with this girl it is good to find out at first that she is going to hate you because you are not x

iif you were going for a ONS, then you screwed up, dont mention religion or politics
 

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speaking your mind = telling them who you are

telling them who you are forces them to like you or not for who you are

noone supports what you're saying? doesn't matter, it's your opinion

personally i wouldn't like someone who judges people on whether or not they are christian. but maybe she was trying to find out how bad you are ;)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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If she's not gonna like you because of your religious views, you don't want anything to do with her. Trust me on this one.
 
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