Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Yes it is. The other guys probably have a popularity thing going on too. It Sparks the B1tch lizard brain. I've been with plenty who had slightly bigger guys but was able to get higher performance out of her.....I can last ages, I dom the shyt out of women without being too creepy. I pay attention to her and can usually make women cvm. I've had compliments in all of these areas but never had a woman say I was the best, or be OTT with the compliments. I am average on the D.
I have friends who I know are big and they seem to have women obsessed with fvcking them and they talk about how great they are.
Coincidence?
And the more popular guys are usually lazier and more selfish in bed. She only phvcks him to say she had him to her gfs. They become a convert to me when I show em how sex would go.Yes it is. The other guys probably have a popularity thing going on too. It Sparks the B1tch lizard brain. I've been with plenty who had slightly bigger guys but was able to get higher performance out of her.
The energy from the enthusiastic helpful ones makes me perform better and a larger boner.Seriously. I've always picked up complitments because I damn well know how to dom a woman but some like it, some don't.
The guys I know who girls say are good in bed have got big d1cks. Like a big pair of tits, it's just novelty value and it wears off.
A woman who stongly values men for their sexuality is to be avoided at all costs. Some women don't care much as long as you are happy with her in bed. These are called "women". They like men for long term compaitbility, companionship and warm, cosy nights and feeling appreciated.
The other type, "vag hungry dead souled men with a vag" are the type who swoon at bodybuilders and think pvssy first. As soon as they are bored with you in bed, watch out, because they thing with their pvssy and will seek it elsewhere. Usually the type of women who are obsessed with their career and status and purely see a man as a walking dildo or status symbol with their friends. They've had threesomes when drunk, they usually have a huge past of things which a man would never want to know about. They have a massive female social group and see men as a foreign species and are incapable of true intamacy or fidelity.
They tend to read cosmo, a lot.
Of course, there's wrong with waning a fulfiling sex life. This is based on the assumption the guy isn't massively selfish, but women who always need to cvm and get hung up easy on her enjoyment....I find these are red flaggers.
I've had some girls be fine with pleasing me when they are on. Others, if they can't cvm ypu get nothing. This amps up pressure on the guy and, let's face it, who wants this pressure in sex.
The girl who treats sex, at least initially, as an exercise in making her man happy is the woman who gets love. This is dynamite for me, it means I may have many years of happy sex and makes me want to make her happy in the areas she tends to care about - general good treatment, commitment, fidelity etc. Also, I start WANTING to make her cvm more. The girl who starts bytching on the 3rd date about her sexual pleasure....well, thanks for ripping the fun out of the most important thing in my life. Early sex should just be about making it a success. I need to feel motivated to fvck a woman, she just needs to lie there basically so she needs to recognise that boners are tempermental things and conditionaility in sex, esp early on, is not helpful.
Rant over. I had a few of these girls earlier this year and the contrast of genuinely helpful/enthusiastic women is huge. As women have said above, if it's the all around package of a man which is important, how he treats you and the relationship, making sex amazing for him is very likely to make him really want to make the other parts great for her. You don't half feel happy with the thought she is willing to please you in bed, it's like magic to us, well, at least to me.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I'd lost my desire and my erectionI had a woman scowl at me before and say "Don't get me pregnant".
true romance at its finest.