You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
nice general tips. I'm looking for tips right now because I'm bringing some girl to a bar to meet some co-workers and would like to escalate things a bit (at least to find out if she's interested so I don't waste my time with her). But your tips will work for that situation too. Thanks.blueline said:-Scan the room for eye contact
-If any girl shoots you any EC, go up to her and start talking to her while giving her deep EC
-Speak in a soft, deep voice
-Only say just enough to keep the conversation flowing, but nothing more
-If there are any awkward blips yet she's still being friendly, just HOLD the EC - this is what we call sexual tension.
-TOUCH her ASAP (start from friendly shoulder touches to more sexualized things)
-handshake with your palm up and hold that *****'s hand if she's giving you good non-verbals
if you do the above, you will not even need to verbalize your interest, she will know exactly what is up from the moment you look at her.
Nice, man. Just be friendly and do what I said above. I have run the same game in a coffee shop in a similar situation and the girl said she needed to be somewhere alone with me after 20 minutes of it. That's my only type of game.Kal0051 said:nice general tips. I'm looking for tips right now because I'm bringing some girl to a bar to meet some co-workers and would like to escalate things a bit (at least to find out if she's interested so I don't waste my time with her). But your tips will work for that situation too. Thanks.
sorry to go a bit off topic, shouldn't you find out her interest before introducing her to people you know, such as co-workers?I'm looking for tips right now because I'm bringing some girl to a bar to meet some co-workers and would like to escalate things a bit (at least to find out if she's interested so I don't waste my time with her).
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.