"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Does anyone get egged on by their dad?

Bling

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I knew I was a RAFC, but my dad just humiliates me when I don't say anything... He tells me all the time to say something, but it scares me even more. He's a cool dad, we talk about everything, go fishing, play ball, etc. but it's much unwanted pressure from him.



Anyway, how about you and your dad as far as pressure about girls?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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qweretyuiopas

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Not from dad, actually parents never even talk about this kinda stuff to me.

One time in Vegas (my first visit) there was this cute chick near me, my uncle was with me (cool ass dude and a pimp lol although his standards kinda low) and he was pretty loaded and was pressuring me to say something, I had considered it but when he started doing that it only made it worse. He made a big deal out of talking to her and it made me nervous, before it was no biggie but when he started doing that it kinda just messed me up.

I say you talk to your dad and tell him whats up, tell him it only makes it worse. Your 16 be honest with him and tell him whats up and how you can handle it yourself, if you say it confidently he should have a new respect for you.
 

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My dad tries to give me advice about girls, until he realized that I've got more game than he ever did, and that my standards are so high that he doesnt need to worry about ever having ugly grandchildren. Now he just talks about how this girl smiled at me and how this girl did this.

Oh well...
 

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I notice whenever someone tells me to do something it bugs me out because I know theyre watching.

One of the older co-workers was like "Hey! Go ask hb7 out"

and when we're talkign hes whispering at me "do it"

Hes just messin around but it still kills my game when people know what im up to.

Kind of like someone watching you piss
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Hah I have people watch me piss all the time. Random drug tests for probation.

I think if somebody knows what you're doing, it means you've got to be on top of your game.
 

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That is weird if he does that. Probably because he is bitter about how his life turned out. No boy wants to listen to his father talk about girls.

When I was in high school my father (who was older than many of my classmates' grandfathers :cool: ) never really said anything to me...Period. I do vaguely remember him telling me how lucky my mother and I were to have such a man in our lives. That was about it.
 

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i love my dad realizing i have more success with girls so much easier than he ever had. he sees girls im dating and i hear him say "holy shiit" under his breath.
 

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My dad just smiles and like laughs when I bring girls over. He always says "it runs in the family".


He was a huge player back in the day from my understanding from friends parents and all that. Mr popular, He once went to prom with one girl from another school, and the next night, went to prom with another girl from another shcool. Yes, He did get caught. And he always tells me to beat that one LOL.


He said the only advice he can give me is to not be scared. If he was scared he wouldnt have dated half the girls he dated.

I love listening to my Dad talk about his glory days and all that. The stories are hilarious and he says he'll tell me the rest when I'm 21 haha
 
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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my dad just tells me look shes pretty but i act uniterested in the girl so my would leave me alone and stop telling she pretty shes goodlooking etc
 

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Skilla_Staz said:
My dad tries to give me advice about girls, until he realized that I've got more game than he ever did, and that my standards are so high that he doesnt need to worry about ever having ugly grandchildren. Now he just talks about how this girl smiled at me and how this girl did this.

Oh well...

HAHA :crackup:

So true Skilla! So true!

:up:
 

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my dad points things out to me...after they've already happened. and its usually interesting stuff too.

example: my brother, dad and I go to the mall to see a movie. we're checking out clothes before the movie starts and we make some jokes to a female clerk. we left and saw ricky bobby, yay. next day we go back for school shopping. the same clerk is working there as my dad is there, she doesnt remember that we were there yesterday. but then as my brother and I walk up she remembers and and says she mainly remembered me. i talked to her found out what college she was going to and how old she was, 21
what my dad pointed out: i managed to fake looking 18, because she managed to remember me the most. and i managed to attract someone 6 years older than me. though im sure that changed when she found out i was 15. lol
 

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Just cause someone remembers you doesn't mean they love you or even like you. Maybe she thought you were really odd.

IMPORTANT: Just because a girl smiles at you doesn't mean she is interested. In America people smile all the freaking time. It is as if they wanna show you that they still have all their teeth.
 

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sparky0000 said:
Just cause someone remembers you doesn't mean they love you or even like you. Maybe she thought you were really odd.

IMPORTANT: Just because a girl smiles at you doesn't mean she is interested. In America people smile all the freaking time. It is as if they wanna show you that they still have all their teeth.
yeah almost as if we're...happy or something
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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My dad is a failure. I hope I become nothing like him.

Think - George Mcfly (before) with a temper (only to his family, scared of other men)
 

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Hell yes.
 
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