"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Does anyone else have controlling mothers??

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I don't blame my mom as the main reason I do badly with women. I blame myself and know it's my fault, but I think my mom being controlling is a huge factor. I firmly believe that the way you interact with your mom is the way you interact with most women. And since I let my mom control me, I then let other women that I'm going for control me. Also having a control mother causes you to develop into the nice guy women hate instead of the bad boy women love.

Now don't get me wrong. I'm not a mama's boy at all. Far from it. Unlike mama's boys, I don't rely on her or need to be around her at all BUT I still let her control me now matter how hard I try to avoid it.

Once again, I'm not blaming everything on my mom, but I do think she's a factor.

What do you guys think?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Dysfunctional parent gender roles make for dysfunctional person
 
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i do!! i do!! i have two controlling parents. they made me like this; a nice guy with no friends and no purpose in life. I never got to go out with friends in high school and never joined school activities.

however, that is in the past. you're the only factor that determines who you want to be today.
 
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dude04 said:
i do!! i do!! i have two controlling parents. they made me like this; a nice guy with no friends and no purpose in life. I never got to go out with friends in high school and never joined school activities.

however, that is in the past. you're the only factor that determines who you want to be today.
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Yeah, I agree, but it's not that hard when they've been there for a great percentage of your life.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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my mother is still controlling, but its tough for her to act 1500 miles away :)
 
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My mom said i cant have a girlfriend until in 16 so when i was younger i just never talked to girls...and now its kinda biting me in the foot.
 
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