"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Does anyone else find pubs/clubs really boring?

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I like to go to the student bar and play pool thats cool but I find most nightlucbs corwded and I dont enjoy dancing. Most pubs are too busy and noisey also.

House parties can be fun.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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bigneil

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Hosting parties is where you can really score - if you can get a crowd of 40+ to show up, and have a nice pad (and maybe some good food and wine).

Playing pool is also great - but you're right, bars with no purpose other than drinking are extremely boring, and it only makes it harder to meet women.
 

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I suffered from severe agoraphobia in my later teens i tryed to meet and date the "quiet" girls but i always ended up at some crowded place or event like a concert, sporting event, or Six flags and i couldnt get past it for years. Therapy and meds can help but I still don't feel 100 percent


YOU HAVE TO BEAT THE CROWD THING
if you plan to have any kind of dating life
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I guess you could argue that if there's a lot of good skirt in a bar, then by default it is not boring. However, just going and sitting there and talking about the same old crap with friends and there's hardly anyone in there = boring.

I do like it if a bar has a good dj, or band. That always livens it up a bit.
 

PDubb75

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I love going to bars and clubs. But you aren't gonna have a good time if you are just sitting there. You gotta interact with people. Karaoke bars are fun, even though I don't sing at them. Great opportunities to bust on some chicks there. And generally, people that go to karaoke are a lot cooler/more open than a normal bar crowd.

My personal favorite are bars with a good DJ, cause I like to dance. But, they aren't always the best for pick-ups (loud/crowded).
 

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Something is boring simply when it's not your environment.
If you were in a club with a male/female ration of 1:5 you would have def more fun simply because you wont be experiencing any stress or performance anxiety.

Instead when you go to a meat market where you are the meat to be evaluated no surprise you're having a bad time, you either like to dance or you either like to pretend to have fun as you are expected in that situation.

The loud music alone was more than enough to discourage me when I was a teen,house parties are the best even more if there's a garden outside.
 

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I've had way more hookup success just doing school work in the cafe at Barnes & Noble on a Friday night than I've had in a club on a Friday night. Clubs just aren't for me, and I've come to realize that that is okay.
 

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I always thought a CLUB was the true test of a DJ, someone who can be THEE alpha male in a club and get everyone wondering what hes all about .
picture the scene in TheMask when Jim Carrey shows up and all eyes are on HIM. Someone walking in with that kind of attitude could pull ass out of a hat
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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