Does AFC behavior work for some people?

[chevelle]

I have met a lot of guys who open their heart to girls and the girls seem to eat it up (you're the one, i love you so much baby, you complete me, etc.).
The few times i have done this, the momentum of the relationship drastically changed and i ended up being kicked to the curb.

I can't seem to find the right medium to keep girls around romantically. If i am too distant, they are mad. If i am too nice, they are mad. If i act neutral, they are mad.

Am i just not meeting the right females for me, or am i just experiencing a bout of bad luck?

Thanks!!!!

 

[SLY]

that's why you have to switch up that medium every now and then . keep things interesting and spontaeneous.

but for me i tend to lean more toward being distant. being too nice is a no no for me. so i kinda hold back calling them baby all the time.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Pook said even AFCs get laid.

Being afc can get you laid, but it is also the fastest way to make the girl get bored of you and move on to a dj with game. The girls I date typically have a cast of AFCs in their lives. Some of them have actually had sex or at least made out with her, some of them continue to do so from time to time. I don't care, because I get more sex out of each girl than all of their other guys put together. The AFC crew is always calling and texting when I am with whatever girl. We make fun of them...a lot. So, yes, AFCs can get laid, but you really don't want to be one of them.

 

[Interceptor]

AFC behavior is really identified by being overly accomodating, insecure andneeding constant reassurance, being clingy and too needy, need for validation, a lack of understanding of male/female dynamics, a lack of sexuality, an uncomfortableness about sexuality, especially in viewing women as sexual creatures, a need to be rescued or saved by a womna, a need to wroship a womna, a need to let the oan LEad the realtionshiop and give him gudance, a lack of understanding of attraction, and seduction, a disconnect of his inner masculinity, a desire to drop everything for a woman, and a lack of strong identity, preferences, and ideas, and usually a total lack of self observation and self reflection needed in order to mature and grow.


Wheh...(wipes brow)

How's that working out for ya?




Guys, try to understand just why the mantra of "get rid of your inner AFC" is so true, and justifiable.


AFCs are generally Males who LACK a strong MASCULINE IDENTITY.

That's why MOST of OUR toughest issues can be SOLVED by maximizing , and DEVELOPING OUR true MASCULINITY.
WE must do everything WE can to MATURE, as true MASCULINE MEN.

That's really it.

"Be the Man".


I know it sounds too easy.
Some of you just don't quite believe it. I know that.
The vast overwhelming majority of males DO NOT HAVE MENTORS or GUIDANCE from strong, MASCULINE Male Role MODELS

This is why many of US do not have a Frame of REFERENCE to go by.


DO everything you possibly can to develeop your Masculinity, and never cease to GROW.

Mature and Masculine.........
A Gentleman of HIGH CHARACTER.

Dudes, knowing what I know now.....
...........THAT is the answer.
Seek HIGH CHARACTER in yourself, and in others.

Maximize your Masculine potential.

No excuses.