Does acting like you don't give a fcuk work?

[tomwesten27]

I'm a young guy and I have to deal with a lot of "Teasing Unpredictable Young Girls."

I never had the balls to actually play it like I don't give a fcuk about them. Like say your hanging with a girl and she is all flirty and snuggling with you and you make a few obvious moves, but then she doesn't let you escalate further..

I have so many friends telling me "dude you gotta just act like you don't give a fcuk if you hook up with her or not, don't give her too much attention, text back with 1 word responses, forget to respond back to some of her texts, dont say sorry to her for not responding, etc. etc."

Does all that actually work? Acting like you don't care about the outcome really work?

I mean the only way to find it is to try it right? How can I execute this properly where I don't come off as a big D-head.

 

[Bokanovsky]

Does all that actually work? Acting like you don't care about the outcome really work?

On young and immature girls, yes it does.

I mean the only way to find it is to try it right? How can I execute this properly where I don't come off as a big D-head.

The first step is to stop worrying about coming off as a big D-head.

 

[Thomson]

Action and thoughts are involved. You can act but how long can you go on acting? Sooner or later you will be tired of acting and really search for some meaningful relationship.

Now thoughts and actions are very much involved. You can act but if you don't have a deep understanding into abundance the acting will not go on very long, authentically. And if you have a deep insight into an abundance life, then the actions of not caring comes naturally - you won't even be aware of it. What can you do?

Understand that every girl can make you happy. And there is not the one. There is no soul mate. Understand that there are abundance quantity of fishes in the ocean. Understand that life is just a play and not about seriousness, deadness. Now many people will teach you to live a serious life, but that will just do the exact opposite thing for what you are aiming to. You don't wan to take the woman seriously, just a playfulness.

A serious life will never succeed with woman because in the very first place it gives very much value for the woman and then you lose yourself in the seriousness. You no longer know how to think for yourself. You already have the serious ideas about marriage, soulmate, livin together, dying together. You are never here; always planning for something serious. And to live in the moment is to live in playulness. Can you play music with planning? Can you play wih kids, friends while planning the future at the same time? No, you can not.

 

[Jair213]

Action and thoughts are involved. You can act but how long can you go on acting? Sooner or later you will be tired of acting and really search for some meaningful relationship.

Now thoughts and actions are very much involved. You can act but if you don't have a deep understanding into abundance the acting will not go on very long, authentically. And if you have a deep insight into an abundance life, then the actions of not caring comes naturally - you won't even be aware of it. What can you do?

Understand that every girl can make you happy. And there is not the one. There is no soul mate. Understand that there are abundance quantity of fishes in the ocean. Understand that life is just a play and not about seriousness, deadness. Now many people will teach you to live a serious life, but that will just do the exact opposite thing for what you are aiming to. You don't wan to take the woman seriously, just a playfulness.

A serious life will never succeed with woman because in the very first place it gives very much value for the woman and then you lose yourself in the seriousness. You no longer know how to think for yourself. You already have the serious ideas about marriage, soulmate, livin together, dying together. You are never here; always planning for something serious. And to live in the moment is to live in playulness. Can you play music with planning? Can you play wih kids, friends while planning the future at the same time? No, you can not.

That is some watt true. But I don't agree with it 100 percent.

The non-serious concept and playfulness in a relationship is exciting, unpredictable, etc. But is it also bound to last a life time? Let's say when time comes when making the transition to the more serious realm of the relationship?

I think the whole playfullness have fun does work in the younger years of ones youth.

But when trying to settle down? If you come in with thoughts of marriage and a lifetime partner does this affect you? If you come in thinking that way but you have also complete control of your emotions not affecting your game and still have that side of playfulness and fun, with the exception of not reeking neediness and AFC'ness etc. Lets say a mixability of all of this. Can one still strive?

 

[PlayHer Man]

"Acting" is for girls.

The more you play head games with a girl the more important you make her. Why is she so important that you give a sh!t what she thinks? Especially if you haven't f*cked her?

The first order of business when you realize you're attracted to a girl is f*cking her brains out. Do that first before you worry about anything else. If you can't f*ck her brains out in a reasonable time frame.. she simply doesn't like you. Trying to manipulate her into liking you after that is just desperate and demeaning. This is why "acting" is for fags. Obviously you should use some "game" but don't PLAY games.

Make it clear you're attracted the minute you feel a tingle in your pants. Flirt with her and get touchy-feely. If she acts stupid, move on to another girl. The game is more simple than many men like to make it. Men have become emotional, over-thinking, soul-mate seeking fags in modern times. :nono:

 

[Jair213]

"Acting" is for girls.

The more you play head games with a girl the more important you make her. Why is she so important that you give a sh!t what she thinks? Especially if you haven't f*cked her?

The first order of business when you realize you're attracted to a girl is f*cking her brains out. Do that first before you worry about anything else. If you can't f*ck her brains out in a reasonable time frame.. she simply doesn't like you. Trying to manipulate her into liking you after that is just desperate and demeaning. This is why I say "acting" is for fags. Obviously you should use some "game" but don't PLAY games.

Make it clear you're attracted the minute you feel a tingle in your pants. Flirt with her and get touchy-feely. If she acts stupid, move on to another girl. The game is more simple than many men like to make it. Men have become emotional, over-thinking, soul-mate seeking fags in modern times. :nono:

I feel you bro.

But some girls like hold off sex some time due to the fact she might want an LTR. So you also need to learn to identify that also. How do you pick up on that though? As you might mistake by her not being interested in you or a lack of atraction from her part.

 

[PlayHer Man]

I feel you bro.

But some girls like hold off sex some time due to the fact she might want an LTR. So you also need to learn to identify that also. How do you pick up on that though? As you might mistake by her not being interested in you or a lack of atraction from her part.

Understand that women are HORNY when they see value. No normal women will "hold off" for Bradly Cooper or Ryan Gosling. So what does that tell you? --> Women who want to f*ck you WILL f*ck you.

Also.. even the ones who wait a little for sex will still get physical. They'll blow you and make out with you. If there is no physicality at all.. within the first week of spending time with her then she is either not attracted or a manipulative control freak / attention wh0re.

 

[tomwesten27]

"Acting" is for girls.

The more you play head games with a girl the more important you make her. Why is she so important that you give a sh!t what she thinks? Especially if you haven't f*cked her?

The first order of business when you realize you're attracted to a girl is f*cking her brains out. Do that first before you worry about anything else. If you can't f*ck her brains out in a reasonable time frame.. she simply doesn't like you. Trying to manipulate her into liking you after that is just desperate and demeaning. This is why "acting" is for fags. Obviously you should use some "game" but don't PLAY games.

Make it clear you're attracted the minute you feel a tingle in your pants. Flirt with her and get touchy-feely. If she acts stupid, move on to another girl. The game is more simple than many men like to make it. Men have become emotional, over-thinking, soul-mate seeking fags in modern times. :nono:

Couldn't agree with you more. The thing is with these younger girls 18-23 they are all the same. I have friends that "act" like they don't give a fcuk when really they aren't acting (like you said actings for girls) they just legit DONT GIVE A FCUK and girls love it.

I tend to over analyze my actions and look into every detail on what I could do differently when really it comes down to what you said...correct me if I am wrong but....

If I meet a new girl. We hang out, kiss. and 2 more hang outs after that I try my damn hardest BOTH TIMES to make moves and lay her and she doesn't give in, or makes some excuse...I gotta give her a hard NEXT. right? I always think what if that next time she gives it up. It has happened to me once before..so I am always thinking to myself "if I keep going at it she will eventually give in!" but thats not it huh?

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PlayHer Man

Didn't see that last post, you must of posted while I was writing. Its pretty fcuking spot on what your saying. I am in a situation now like I said above. If she is interested she will at least kiss, fool around etc. If she after a week of hanging and she stops me every time from even KISSING her. Then she is one of the 2 you said. HARD NEXT.

I see it bro...I see clearly now.

 

[muhnkee]

I am one of the most naturally emotionally distant men you will ever meet. From experience, it works. The only thing that sucks, however, is that women who like that personality are like drug addicts. They ONLY want the aloof and distant persona. The minute you soften up at all, they kick your ass to the curb.

I once was dating a chick who wanted to do everything sexual with me. We're talking front parking lot in front of the bar while people are going past sex. Pretty hot, right?

One day I made the mistake of telling her "I like you". Not "I love you". Just "I like you". Within an hour she stopped responding to texts and I've never seen her since.

 

[Jair213]

Understand that women are HORNY when they see value. No normal women will "hold off" for Bradly Cooper or Ryan Gosling. So what does that tell you? --> Women who want to f*ck you WILL f*ck you.

Also.. even the ones who wait a little for sex will still get physical. They'll blow you and make out with you. If there is no physicality at all.. within the first week of spending time with her then she is either not attracted or a manipulative control freak / attention wh0re.

Accurate.

I will follow this pattern from now on. Even if she doesnt give the V so atleast some physical action is a must.

 

[VladPatton]

So far, you've gotten great, no büllṣhit advice! Just don't be outcome dependent. Of course you should try and 'make things happen', of course, but if they don't, so be it, you drop her and you find another. In reality, that is all you can really do anyway. In between lies the 'game' part of it, where you keep your cool, don't be too eager to jump through her hoops, and do things on your terms.

Simplify everything for success.