Does absence makes the heart grow fonder (after a breakup)

[randalljohnson]

Due to a recent thread somebody made, I'm curious to hear opinions on this. I'm not in this situation, so it's pure curiosity.

I've heard that even if you go full beta and get dumped, if you go no contact fairly quickly, she will come back around at some point in the future (after sleeping with other guys, maybe after other relationship(s). ) Especially if she craves male attention. What are your thoughts and/or experiences? I've had an ex come back after a year and a half. This was after she was in a couple other relationships. I'm currently in an 8 month relationship so the topic isn't about me, just curiosity.

 

[resilient]

Meh. We've talked about this before on the forum. I think they just hover for a validation ego boost in between monkey branching.

 

[bigneil]

Due to a recent thread somebody made, I'm curious to hear opinions on this. I'm not in this situation, so it's pure curiosity.

I've heard that even if you go full beta and get dumped, if you go no contact fairly quickly, she will come back around at some point in the future (after sleeping with other guys, maybe after other relationship(s). ) Especially if she craves male attention. What are your thoughts and/or experiences? I've had an ex come back after a year and a half. This was after she was in a couple other relationships. I'm currently in an 8 month relationship so the topic isn't about me, just curiosity.

A stripper I know who is 23 has a sugar daddy who is 77. She swears nothing goes on sexually, but she goes on dates with him and gets paid $2000 a night. Recently he stopped contacting her. She said "He just fell off the face of the Earth". I could tell she missed him, not romantically, but functionally. I'd miss someone too if they paid me $2000 a night. She said he just stopped responding to all messages instantly. I guess he had asked her to say she was his girlfriend and she couldn't do it (it was a party in her home town). But it was interesting to hear her describe how he had made her miss him. NOTE: making her miss you requires that she likes you enough to have reached out (interest level > 50%). The reason interest level can't go below 50% is because of mathematics - if there is more bad than good, the more she spends time with you the less she likes you.

It doesn't matter why a person wants you in their life, if they want you in their life they will miss you when you are gone.

 

[dude99]

I would say lack of attention makes the heart grow fonder.

If she is getting new attention she may not care to ever contactyou again.

If she was thinking she had new attention lined up but over estimated her situation and found she was getting no attention, your phone may ring/receive texts.

It all comes down to if she is getting validation or not.

 

[bigneil]

It all comes down to if she is getting validation or not.

True, which is why you want to be the one who discovers her, who promotes her, who captures her beauty and proves to her how much she has blossomed. You want to be the one to show her how a lady is treated, to teach her about fine wine, to teach her how to party without getting a hangover, to teach her about the finest resorts and getaways, to teach her about her G spot. Then she will make you one of her ego anchors and will need to constantly seek your validation - for the rest of her life in many cases.

 

[randalljohnson]

I'd also say the odds increase if she has some type of mental illness such as BPD, or insecurity issues, maybe a history of revisiting to past relationships (romantic or platonic)