"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Does a woman see 100% you or 50% you..important thought.

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Hello guys,

I just wanted to present this discussion that often is not talked about. When you are out getting to know, or dating a woman what side of you are you displaying?

I know know about any of you, but there is two sides to me...A extreme geek side, and the quote n quote social norm side. There is the video games, computers, video game music loving side of me and then the drinking, partying, hip hop, Reality Drudging Numbness that is on the other side of the fence...

Most girls whom I meet I display the latter as it is the most appealing side don't you agree? yet, if you are hiding the other side, and all of a sudden a wave of geekyness strikes her what then?

How much of an impact do you think a woman feels with a man to which her perception of him is this cool etc etc..all of a sudden changes to the other side..a geek?

I struggle with this everyday....Should i show 100% off the break, she likes this side of me, but couldn't care less about the other side.

Does it frighten you if you meet a great girl one side you know she likes..the other side she doesn't?

I guess the whole point of dating is getting to know someone inside and out...All cards on the table.

How do you guys feel about this? :confused:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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My opinion is women aren't seeking to "know us"

They want men, and if you are willing to play that role for her, she's not going to look much deeper.
 
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Aaron B said:
My opinion is women aren't seeking to "know us"

They want men, and if you are willing to play that role for her, she's not going to look much deeper.
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I like this, but it's a little pessimistic. As long as you are a man, a woman will appreciate and enjoy all parts of you, whether they're "cool" or not.
 
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As Louis/Copeland wrote "As a man there will come times when you want to explain why you do things the way you do. Don't do it. Never offer details about yourself. Only answer questions."

I consider this one of the fundamentals.
 
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LearningSlowly said:
I like this, but it's a little pessimistic. As long as you are a man, a woman will appreciate and enjoy all parts of you, whether they're "cool" or not.
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I didn't pass judgment on it. I made an observation. To be pessimistic I would have to see it negatively, which I don't.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Be yourself. She can take it or leave it.

Do you genuinely enjoy video games? if so, don't give it up for any woman.
 
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