Does a man or 'DJ' have to apologize?

[Jokerlsk]

So lately I've been talking to this one girl. I've mentioned her previously, but I've gotten to the point where I don't know if I really like her. Actually, let's rephrase that, I do like her, I just don't know if I want to pursue her anymore. Everyone in my class is all over her except me, and I'm okay with that, I'm not afraid of competition. There's something about her that I can't put my finger on, but whatever it is, I guess I like it. I still game other girls and all, and the only reason I don't cave, or get oneitis with her is because of the guys here.
Honestly, I don't think this girl is use to not getting what she wants. When she says, 'jump' to the other guys in my class they all ask, "how high.' But I don't. I don't even acknowledge her, and I think that's what bugs her the most. I joke with her a lot. I've told her she needed to wear more makeup, I've told her how i thought her best friend was prettier than her, but she still talks to me. Trust me, I don't always act this way. I know how to be nice, I am a nice, confident, and funny person. She just can't take a joke, or she just acts that way to try to get me to feel bad for her. Every time I make a joke with her she goes off and runs to one of my friends who is her b****. Anyways, today I got a text about this, and my friend says that I've hurt that girls feelings. I just really don't feel like apologizing. I mean, should I? I don't think I should. I didn't do anything wrong. I told her i was joking a long time ago, and I guess the message hasn't stuck. I just don't want to waste anymore time on her I guess. School ends friday, and I won't be seeing much of her anymore until next year. I mean what would you guys do?

My reputation in highschool probably makes me the smart, ****y kid that no one really knows except for my good friends, and you know what? It sucks being known as the smart kid. I just feel that girls don't really take initiative to get to know me. The people that do know me best know that I'm actually a deep person. I'm naturally introverted, so I think that I put off that smart ass, ****y persona as a defense mechanism. Girls are just too confusing for me to understand. I just feel like I'm wasting my time when I talk to one. I've realized that I don't know how to be a dj. I don't know how to be smooth, or say the right things at the right time. I usually screw things up by insulting the other person or joking with her so it forces them not to want to get to know me, and just not thinking about it, I know it's true.

 

[Captain Harlock]

I wouldn't apologize. You gave the reasons yourself.

I just really don't feel like apologizing. I mean, should I? I don't think I should. I didn't do anything wrong. I told her i was joking a long time ago, and I guess the message hasn't stuck. I just don't want to waste anymore time on her I guess.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Only apologize when necessarry.

Example: A girl was bending over to pick something up and I accidently kicked her in the face. I was pretending like I was gonna kick her just to fvck with her... But, I accidently did. So, I apologized.

Another one is I got mad at someone for something they didnt do. I realized I was wrong so, I said sorry.

You only need to say sorry when you did something wrong. If you do not think you did something wrong. Dont apologize.

 

[Jokerlsk]

okay, so what i'm really trying to figure out is if I actually hurt her feelings or if she's just trying to get under my skin.

 

[JerryFl08]

i think she's just trying to get under your skin or get you to give in to her.. Like I.A.F.Y.B. said only apologize when necessary.

If you told her like "wow ur fvck ugly" or something extremely harsh well then yea of course you should apologize but in your case you didn't do anything wrong or bad whatsoever

 

[Captain Harlock]

did you say something offensive in particular? Otherwise she's probably just trying to get under your skin. If she asks you about it tell her she should take things less seriously.

 

[Jokerlsk]

I think I did say some offensive stuff on purpose. I had oneitis really bad one time, and that girl messed me up pretty bad. So every time a girl tries to get to know me I shut them down subconsciously. I mean, sometimes I'm just a complete jerk off to them just to feel better about myself, and to give my ego a boost, which is pointless because my ego is already overly inflated, I guess it's just sensitive. I look at some of my friends, some of the ones that I use to be really close with, but have kind of fallen into the back seat with, and I notice how much happier they are than me. They certainly aren't better than me, but they are happier than me. Today was a half day, and everyone went out to eat. While I went out with my dad, I noticed all my friends going out together, and it helped me remember how inadequate I feel sometimes.

I guess I'm a little depressed, but certainly not to the extreme. I just like to keep to myself, and I feel weak when someone tries to get to know me. Not even my best friends really know anything about me. I've always tried so hard to be different, and separate myself from the crowd, but by doing this I've made myself into someone that isn't happy. I don't hate myself. I like myself, I even love myself, but I'm afraid of all the possibilities, and keep myself away from change. I have all of these thoughts that no one knows about. I have talents and skills no one knows about just because I'm afraid of being rejected. I'm so afraid of rejection that I'm sacrificing my own God given talents just for the sake of other people. I guess I'm afraid of being myself. That's why I say offensive stuff to people sometimes, but I play it off as a joke. That's why I tell girls that they "need to wear more makeup," or, "your friend is prettier than you." I don't want them to get to know me. I don't want people to hurt me, so I don't let them by being a complete douche bag. I didn't realize this until my friend told me, but he's spot on. I hate this girl so much because I like her, and I don't want to feel that way.

This summer is time for changes so enough of this petty BS. You know, life moves on pretty fast, and if I don't stop and look around every once in a while I might miss it.

 

[Captain]

okay, so what i'm really trying to figure out is if I actually hurt her feelings or if she's just trying to get under my skin.

It doesn't matter if you hurt her feelings. You didn't do anything wrong. If her feelings were hurt, just ignore her for a while.

It's better to be a jerk than to be nice and over-apologetic.

IAFYB gave a good example. That's when you apologise.

And use paragraphs.

 

[Faded Image]

Dude, you tell her she needs to wear more make-up and that her friend looks better than her.

If a girl told you your friend looks better than you would you be pissed or act like your pissed?

 

[Jokerlsk]

Yeah, good point.

 

[Kal0051]

I only apologize when I feel I did something wrong.

 

[I'm in the Mood]

Oh my God...if you apologize to her you may as well be saying "sorry that I ever talk to you." It's her problem, it's not your fault...man you always know when you should apologize to someone. This feeling is like a part of human nature, other feelings can get in the way though, such as desire, which would influence your honesty and desperation to get this girl in a good mood with you constantly...Damn it's pretty hard to be in complete control of your mind sometimes.

 

[lalahaha]

don't apoligize and there is a good reason not to.
A) did you say it in a joking manner or with a smile, it can make all the difference
b) even if you didn't since every other guy in the class jumps on her command she probably doesn't even believe it herself when you insult her beauty or whatever
she's just trying to see if she can brainwash you into her army of chumps

 

[Jokerlsk]

A) Yes
B) She went around telling our mutual friends i thought she was ugly so they would make me apologize.

And thank you. I will not apologize.

 

[Jokerlsk]

Okay, so wtf?
Today was an exam day, so we had half the day off. After my exam was over with the girl's friend steals my phone and starts texting people. I'm okay with that, but I didn't really know who she was talking to. So apparently she pissed the girl more off, and so her friend apologized on my behalf when i'm not sorry for not doing anything wrong. bull****

 

[DJDamage]

Stick to your guns son.

B1tch is tripping that you ain't folding like a chair like the rest of the guys who appologize at the drop of a hat, even though they feel they shouldn't.

In actuality if you do appologize because "she made you too" instead of you wanting too, it will make you weak in her eyes because it will confirm that you were wrong after all with your antics.

Women chase guys who can conjure up a roller coaster of emotions inside of them. Deep down they love the guy who can stand up to them.

 

[Jokerlsk]

So we were textin about this kid who is in love with her, and I went on to say, "That kid's new gf is the hottest girl i've ever seen." and she says, "You probably don't get a good enough look with those slant eyes you've got," (because I'm asian.) I'm sorry but that actually was funny.

Then I come back with, "You looked a little ashy the other day with that sunburn of yours. I couldn't help but notice that skin peeling from your shoulders."

And she was like, "Well it's gone now."

And I said, "You might want to use johnson and johnsons to clear some of that up."

Yeah, it was funny but i think i pissed her off

 

[Jokerlsk]

Did I take that too far