"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Does a dj help his friend who is in and AFC relationship?

oteao99

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My friend is in a AFC relationship. We haven't hung out in a long time because he is upsessed with his gf and when I ask him if he wants to do something he says he has work or makes up some excuse. He dosn't hang out with any of his other friends either. I used to be best friends with him, before september but it hasn't been the same after he started going out with this girl. He used to tell me gossip between them but I stoped caring after a month and he figured that out. What should I do, should I just put him on the back burner until he breaks up with her, or should I tell him she is a demon from hell. She told one of our mutral friends that she isn't really into him anymore and kinda wants to dump him but we never told him that. One time last week he thought she was cheating on him and went physco, like punched the wall so hard he had to go to the er (he turned out fine thou, just a little brusing). Could someone tell me where to go from here. MB you've had some experience in this department?

One more thing, she dosn't even respect him, she dosn't say bye on the phone or anything. She has him by the balls.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Dr.Dude

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I'm sorry, but don't touch this even if you have a ten-foot pole.

Well, that is until your friend accepts the truth - his relationship isn't working anymore.

Whatever you will say to him right now about his relationship might decrease your friendship and cause unnecessary trouble.

It sucks, I know. Good luck though!
 

PRMoon

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I say let him fry. Experience is the best teacher. There's a very small chance that he won't snap out of it and realize that this this sh*t sucks. After he dumps her or vice versa just vent about it then. You can talk about it durning and exciting adventure to nightclub or strip club!!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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oteao99

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thanks for the advice, I'm just gonna wait this one out. I hope one of them dumps the other soon.
 

backbreaker

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someone has to be want to be helped.. if you see me constantly getting attention from women, I always have a woman at my house when I want one, my phone rings off the hook when I even keep it on, and you are over here beating your meat, crying because your "love of your life" is getting creampied by her Ex BF.. if you don't have the wherewithal to ask for help, or to acknowledge that this guy might be better than me in this aspect of his life, then you aren't worth helping.
 

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Tell him ONCE and briefly, and make sure to tell him that you're only trying to help and that you would want someone to do the same for you if the situation were reversed. Maybe recommend a site like this one or the Book of Pook. If he doesn't respond favorably after that one time, don't press any further. In fact, even if he does respond favorably, which he probably won't, still don't continue to bring it up in the future. Let him handle it if he decides to repent of his chumpish lifestyle. A man can really only take responsibility for himself.

And this is coming from experience.
 

snowdog

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STAY OUT OF IT. I've been in your situation a couple of times and believe me, the most likely result you'll get out of interfearing is damaging your friendship.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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