Docs - Personality, A Quick Look Into Why It Matters So Damn Much

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Take a gander at this MSN conversation, a girl I've never talked to before, and I want you to think about a few things.

- Who has Control of the conversation?
- What is the Energy State of this Conversation (Electric, High, Middle, Low, Dead)?
- Is the converstaion light-hearted, Serious, Joking, Lost?
- How much of a crossover of topics is there (rapport)?
- What's being used for a prop? What is its effectiveness?
- How engaged is the target in the conversation
- Can you point out a small system I used?
- How did I react to her mention of a boyfriend?
- What's canned about this?

Me: Hey
Her: hi
Me: Hows you>
Her: good thanks
Her: very cool pic!
Me: Which picture?
Her: lolyours
Me: The guitar?
Her: ya
Me: I'm so confused ><
Me: Ohh
Me: hehe ^^
Her: lol
Me: Yours is you, that makes your picture cooler then mine ^^
Her: lol
Her: whell where is your picture of u?
Her: be cool with me.
Me: lola
Bry-Bry - Happy sends F:\Pictures\IM000328.jpg (me on a horse)
Me: ^ there.
Her: :-Oa horse!
Her: your a horse!
Her: lol
Me: Yeah!
Me: Nawwwwyyy
Her: sweet!
Her: can i ride u?Lol
Me: :$, sure ^^
Her: that sounded kinda dirty haha
Me: Meh, you said it
Her: well i enjoyed it lol
Me: That's good, as long as you're happy hun.
Her: lol of course!
Her: soooo
Me: ^^
Her: i'm guessing u like horses?lol
Me: A little bit.
Her: ooo i like guys that like horses lol
Me: Really?!: o
Me: I like girls that like guys that like horses!
Her: no no
Her: u like women!
Her: no girls lol
Her: i hope lol
Me: Ahh, yes, thanks!
Her: so what else do u like
Her: besides women that like guys who like horses
Me: Ahaha, I just bought my truck (my baby!), I work two jobs to keep myself busy, computers, playing pool, relaxing, driving, road trips, just about anything goes.
Her: where are you from?
Her: and
Me: I'm in Kingston.
Her: what kind of truck!!!??
Me: S10, 1991 Chevy
Her: ooooo no way!
Me: 5spd standard.
Me: Ehh..?
Her: oo sexy
Her: what color!
Me: Guess!
Her: pink!
Her: lol
Her: jk
Her: black?
Me: Why does everyone say that~! ><
Me: And yeah, black.
Her: man i'm good
Her: and i love the color pink thats y i said it lol
Her: ur picture is hot!
Me: Yeah, everyone else said pink too ><
Me: :-O
Me: It's like winter there ><
Her: ur the prettiest horse ever lol
Me: I know ^^
Her: lol really
Me: Yeah, but...everyone loves me, so I don't know...
Her: lol
Her: so how old are u
Me: Ima almost 20 year old house, so you gotta take care of me.
Me: horse*
Her: lol
Me: ^^, how old are you?
Her: guess
Me: 18?
Her: lol no
Me: 19?
Her: no
Her: lol
Me: 20.;.?
Her: ding ding!
Me: Ohhh
Me: You're older ><
Her: i am?
Her: lol
Me: I'm almost 20, lol :$
Me: I feel so...young ><
Her: :-O lol
Her: ur a baby!
Her: lol
Me: Nooo, I'm a horsey!
Her: lol
Her: whens ur bday
Me: August 25th
Me: So far away !
Her: lol yes it is!
Me: Yeah!
Her: mines a month after yours lol
Me: Ohhh, at least we're within a year then
Her: so work or school or both?
Me: Work x 2.
Her: doing what?
Me: One's army, the other is delivery of food and crap.
Her: fun!
Her: so ur a pack horse lol
Me: A what?
Me: OHh hah.a
Me: ><
Her: lol
Me: That took a second.
Me: :$
Her: thats okay
Her: ur forgiven this time
Her: lol
Me: ^^
Me: I'm just going to keep trying.
Her: u better
Me: ^^
Her: ooo u know what
Me: What?
Me:
Me: :-O*
Her: u should go on cam!
Me: ?
Me: Ahh!
Me: But....it's like this really big eyeball ><
Her: what lol
Me: The cam!
Her: u lost me lol
Me: Yessss! You: 1 Me: 1 The camera, it's like a big eyeball
Her: lol but u love it
Me: Nooo.
Her: lol
Her: sooo gf or bf ?
Her: or both lol
Me: Lots!
Me: You?!
Her: u lost me lol
Me: Yesss! You: 1 Me: 2 Lotsa gf, bf, bff, dunof, kindaf, maybef, goodf, meh
Me:
Me: Wait!
Her: lol
Me: wf, mf,
Her: lol
Me: ^^
Her: what are u on lol
Me: Ground ?
Me: Maybe it's the grass today
Her: ur so cute
Me: Pffsuh!
Me: Naw.
Her: lol
Her: ya
Me: Naw.
Her: so what do u do for fun in kingston.. everytime i go there we can never find things to do !
Her: besides the bars lol
Me: You just need some good friends..and anywhere can be awesome
Me: My fun comes from delivery, lol
Her: lol
Her: so i can hang out with u next weekend then haha
Me: Sure, maybe, we'll see ^^
Her: lol well if u see make cute face around make sure u say hi!
Me: Wha?
Me: Make?
Her: lol i ment my
Me: Ohh,
Her: its been a long day lol
Me: It's only 3..
Her: ya its been long so far tho lol
Me: Mmm
Me: My day started at 1.
Her: am or pm haha
Me: pm.
Me: The first time in like forever I got to sleep in
Her: lucky u
Me: Yeah.
Her: i was up earlysad
Me: Awwn, porr baby.
Me: poor*
Her: yasad
Her: lol
Her: and i want to go tan right now but it looks like its going to rainsad
Her: lol
Me: It looks like clear here, where are you?!
Her: i am exactly an hour and a half away from u!
Her: a place called -- lol
Me: What the helL?!
Her: what?lol
Me: I'm going to guess....east?
Her: i dunno lol
Her: i'm near ottawa is that east?Lol
Me: Yeah
Me: Maybe that's north too.
Me: What highway gets you to Ottawa?
Her: ya its definetly north lol
Her: i dont know lol
Me: :-O
Me: How can you find Kingsotn then?! >M
Her: lol i'm never the driver
Her: plus i'm there like every other weekend so i dont really need to know the names of the roads lol
Me: Mmm...lol
Her: lol
Her: what
Me: You must not like getting lost then?
Her: lol i never worry... like i said i'm never the driver so not my problem lol
Me: lol
Me: Well, it's getting harder for me to get lost, because I'm getting good at Toronto, and Ottawa's cake.
Her: what do u do in ottawa and t.o?
Me: TO, it's either plane...or...something relating to a bar or a truck. Ottawa, drinking, my get away spot...drinking, lol
Her: lol y ottawa
Me: 'I like the city.
Me: Stupid simple to drive in.
Her: is kingston not a city?
Her: lol
Me: Yeah
Me: lol
Me: I like Kingsotn too,
Me: Kingston*
Me: Ottwaas my get away though ^^
Her: i have yet to go to stages or anything likie that lol
Her: lol
Me: I haven't been in Stages since last/...
Me: September?
Her: lol
Me: lol
Me: Nop wait..
Her: plus i have a tiny problem of not having any id haha
Me: Feburary, but5 that was short lived.
Me: Ahh
Me: That's a tiny problem?
Her: yeah lol
Me: Why..?
Her: since i get mistaken for 16yr olds who dress older than they should lol
Me: Ohh..ahaha.. Wait...how am I supposed to know you're 20 if you don't have ID? :-O:-O:-O
Her: lol
Her: i have a birt cert. and a 25yr old bf who will tell u i'm 20 lol
Me: I hope so! lol
Me: Wait!...Now you're really confusing, how can you have a 25 year boyfriend if you're only 20, that's like....5 years missing!
Her: lol
Her: what am i only allowed to date ppl who are 20?lol
Me: No, I'm just wondering how 25 years can go by if you're only 20.. :-O
Her: lol
Her: no my bf is 25
Me: lol, ok, I give up trying to confuse you
Her: lol
Her: i'm so cute y would u ever want to confuse me/muffle
Me: Because that's my job? I did say I had 3 jobs right>
Her: lol no u said two
Me: Oh, well. I better let you know, but my third job is to confuse everyone as much as possible
Her: loly
Me: Oh, because it pays awesome
Her: lol
Her: it pays nothing!
Me: Nope, it's fun, that's payment. And I wouldn't do it if I didn't enjoy it
Her: lol
Her: but what if it made me upset haha
Me: You better let me know, I like to have 100% customer satisfaction, and every comment towards improving helps!
Her: lol
Her: i will keep that in mind
Her: well i think i'm going to go out and take my clothes off the line because its starting to rainsad
Me: Don't let them fall!
Me: It rains pretty hard out here.
Her: ya thats y i have to go now so they dont blow into the pool!
Her: lol
Me: , see youuuu hun
Her: talk to you later my new horse friend haha
Her: oh wait
Her: how many hands are you lol
Me: How many hands....well considering I have hooves...
Me: ?
Her: lol
Her: u dont know how to measure a horse!?
Her: lol
Me: I'm not sure, I have problems reaching my back.
Her: lol
Her: i'll talk to you later cute horse baby man!
Me:

Alright, did you answer your assigned questions?

I act like this all the time, and I'm telling you it's near addictive for girls when they not only get attention from a cold approach, but the ability for someone to run with such a strength in confidence, the topics I get myself into, and to have fun with it?!

THAT is the purpose of picking up. Let them attach themselves to you, though a strong display of personality. Sometimes it even can trump good looks. Besides, I'd rather have a girl fall for my shining personailty rather then my other shiny things.

:woo:

 

[Docs]

*bumlllap*

 

[Zerix]

Whaaa, you're only 20??

 

[Docs]

Hmmm...

Let me guess, I speak like I'm older?

 

[cant think of a user name]

Heh, well compared to some other MSN convos that have been previously posted on this site, there are some noticeable differences.

You didn't bombard her with questions, and it was mostly her trying to start up topics with you.

 

[Zerix]

Hmmm...

Let me guess, I speak like I'm older?

Seeing how much you contribute to this site and all this advice you offer, yeah I was thinking you're along the lines of Francisco or somethin haha.

That's cool though, lucky you

If I may ask, when did you first discover this site and start "improving?"

 

[Docs]

Heh, well compared to some other MSN convos that have been previously posted on this site, there are some noticeable differences.

You didn't bombard her with questions, and it was mostly her trying to start up topics with you.

That is the purpose of a successful conversation. When there is two way conversation. It also means the target is somewhat interested in talking to you. If you have to pull nails to get something back, it's not worth it.

Seeing how much you contribute to this site and all this advice you offer, yeah I was thinking you're along the lines of Francisco or somethin haha.

That's cool though, lucky you

If I may ask, when did you first discover this site and start "improving?"

Ohh, well...Shezz is only 20 or something too. He's like my UK clone, and I'm the Canadian version. =)

I discovered the site...check the date I joined <<<
I really started improving when after a few months or so of reading (and some chance encounters), that I learned that girls really aren't that crazy, or different to talk to, and that I can have fun with them without wanting the idealistic AFC belief of love or a relationship. Once I understood that...and let it simmer in the head (with some more material), and some approaches..and grabbing confidence and knowing that I really am more important then anyone I'll ever meet, it just slowly transforms you.