"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Do yourself a solid: read the DJ Bible

Veridin

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Here it is. http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/

Go to Step 1: Newbies start here. Read Craig Reeves' "Most commonly asked newbie questions," the first part of the DJ Bible. Then tell me this collection doesn't have what you are looking for.

It is not a bunch of far-fetched ideas put together by some guy who wants to sell books. This is advice composed by a lot of guys over time, who knew what they were talking about. Guys at this forum, SoSuave, who looked at each other's posts and threads and said, "These are the best ones, these we'll save." It was composed by threads in 2001-2004, you will notice. From what I recall from lurking at that time, SS had a high number of members then, and many posters were high-quality advisers.

You will find some threads here today that are just as good, but you will find none that are better, and you will never have so much concentrated Don Juan knowledge in one place. I say this not as some form of worship, but as fact. I learned from the DJ Bible, others can tell you the same. It works.

Yes, it is easier for you to write a thread here in SS, asking the same questions other newbies have asked a thousand times before. You get instant gratification and validation. But is that really who you want to be? A real man trains himself in patience and discipline. So invest a few hours in reading the DJ Bible, it is good for you. Then come back and discuss in the forum, now a little bit wiser.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Thanks for posting that. Time for me to do some major reading.
 

Veridin

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Excellent. Remember that you can download it from that site too, which is good because it links to SS threads and the forum is down often.

I also noted that if you Google "DJ Bible" the old DJ Bible shows up as the first link in the list. Good to know in case you want to recommend it to someone.
 

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Veridin, this shoulda been stickied years ago.


You forgot to mention that they need to "DO" once you have read. Reading will only get you so far. Going out and practicing will improve you 10 fold.

Thanks Veridin!!
 

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The bible should be required reading before you can register. It also teaches you what being a REAL Don Juan is like. SO many people seem hung up on the specifics of "game" that they forget being a Don Juan is more about improving your life in general, becoming a better person, the one you want to be. There are lots of tips and specifics for dealing with women but it's more about changing your attitude and such, not worrying about IOIs, negging, etc. The stuff by Pook is pure gold.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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