"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I have been using this site for a while now, and something that I constantly come across is people that are not willing to do any sort of search of sosuave.com about the subject they wish to know about. First of all, newbies, read the dj bible. Read the different sections of this site on a routine basis. In the end though, experience is worth more than anything posted on these forums. Those of you who write in asking about things that are thuroughly covered in the bible or by articles on the site do nothing but piss off those of us who have done our time here.

From a different perspective, this inability to do a little research on your own also show part of the reason why you are at this site in the first place. A good DJ knows how to find out enough info about a girl without prying too much, and a great DJ can make an excellent impression on a girl by finding out things about the girl that aren't so obvious. This can apply to orginal date ideas, great ice breakers, and many other things. Also, if you are interested in a particular girl, it doesn't hurt to try and find out as much about the girl while still retaining integrity, like don't listen and apply gossip about the girl until you know for sure it is true. Get to know the girl's friends. This takes work RESEARCHING, but it will pay off in the end. I hope what I am writing now will help us senior and master DJs not have to answer the same dumb questions over and over again, especially when articles all ready cover the subject well
 
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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give it up man, this has been said since the first newbie came... This post will just fall to the bottom like the rest of them. There is something similar stickied but heck if YOU cant take the time to look at it, I doubt some newbie will either :crackup:
 

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you're right, but I figured that without the word sticky next to it, people wouldn't be quite so quick to treat it like a boring textbook.
 

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yo man that;s a good point or whatever, but who says u r a master DJ my god some ppl. A master at getting girls you must be so proud.
 

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It would help if you would read my post carefully. I didn't say that I was a master DJ, but I have been around a little while, and technically speaking, I am above you. But that really doesn't matter. I am not proud, but a good analyst. a very self-confident analyst.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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