"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

Do your research

wavejams007

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 9, 2004
Messages
876
Reaction score
3
Age
39
Location
jacksonville, FL
I have been using this site for a while now, and something that I constantly come across is people that are not willing to do any sort of search of sosuave.com about the subject they wish to know about. First of all, newbies, read the dj bible. Read the different sections of this site on a routine basis. In the end though, experience is worth more than anything posted on these forums. Those of you who write in asking about things that are thuroughly covered in the bible or by articles on the site do nothing but piss off those of us who have done our time here.

From a different perspective, this inability to do a little research on your own also show part of the reason why you are at this site in the first place. A good DJ knows how to find out enough info about a girl without prying too much, and a great DJ can make an excellent impression on a girl by finding out things about the girl that aren't so obvious. This can apply to orginal date ideas, great ice breakers, and many other things. Also, if you are interested in a particular girl, it doesn't hurt to try and find out as much about the girl while still retaining integrity, like don't listen and apply gossip about the girl until you know for sure it is true. Get to know the girl's friends. This takes work RESEARCHING, but it will pay off in the end. I hope what I am writing now will help us senior and master DJs not have to answer the same dumb questions over and over again, especially when articles all ready cover the subject well
 
Last edited:

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

Microphone Fiend

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 30, 2003
Messages
2,300
Reaction score
17
Location
Where I be at
give it up man, this has been said since the first newbie came... This post will just fall to the bottom like the rest of them. There is something similar stickied but heck if YOU cant take the time to look at it, I doubt some newbie will either :crackup:
 

wavejams007

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 9, 2004
Messages
876
Reaction score
3
Age
39
Location
jacksonville, FL
you're right, but I figured that without the word sticky next to it, people wouldn't be quite so quick to treat it like a boring textbook.
 

kidkoala

Don Juan
Joined
Apr 1, 2005
Messages
107
Reaction score
0
yo man that;s a good point or whatever, but who says u r a master DJ my god some ppl. A master at getting girls you must be so proud.
 

wavejams007

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 9, 2004
Messages
876
Reaction score
3
Age
39
Location
jacksonville, FL
It would help if you would read my post carefully. I didn't say that I was a master DJ, but I have been around a little while, and technically speaking, I am above you. But that really doesn't matter. I am not proud, but a good analyst. a very self-confident analyst.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

Top