"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Do your friends ever do this?

ScrewIt

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One of my good friends, almost each and every time i tell him some stories of what happened today or something with girls....He will almost always find at least some way of relating to it. Like same thing happened to him in the past, except a different versions of mine.

ex: i tell him about a female telemarketer that i mistakeened for a friend, cause she had a really sweet voice. Then he'll bring up something happening to him similarly in the past, with a complete dialogue.

There are many other things that i've said where he relates to.

and there were other times where an old friend did that.

I'm sure not 100% of their stories are true, possibly faked or concocted at the moment.

do your friends ever do this?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by ScrewIt
One of my good friends, almost each and every time i tell him some stories of what happened today or something with girls....He will almost always find at least some way of relating to it. Like same thing happened to him in the past, except a different versions of mine.

ex: i tell him about a female telemarketer that i mistakeened for a friend, cause she had a really sweet voice. Then he'll bring up something happening to him similarly in the past, with a complete dialogue.

There are many other things that i've said where he relates to.

and there were other times where an old friend did that.

I'm sure not 100% of their stories are true, possibly faked or concocted at the moment.

do your friends ever do this?
Dont sweat it it just shows he respects your opinion of him, and wants to stay in the same level as you. Imitation is the highest form of flattery.
 

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Ya I had one semi-friend/acquaintance like that. I think it's self-esteem problems but I'm not sure.
 

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Re: Re: Do your friends ever do this?

Originally posted by Royal Elite
Dont sweat it it just shows he respects your opinion of him, and wants to stay in the same level as you. Imitation is the highest form of flattery.
yes he does want to stay on the same level as me. but there are times where he "relates" that seems more like he's trying to compete with me. i know he does have certain self esteem issues...as avatar mentioned


If a friend tells me a story of what happened to him, ill just say "cool" or respond in a good manner. If i have no true stories to tell , then i wont.
 

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He's trying to relate to you. If he's always trying to tell a better story in a more flamboyant and louder way, then that could be that he's trying to out do you. But if doesn't do those things, he's just trying to relate.

This is better than the silent guy that says WOW , COOL or nothing at all.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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what are u a ****in wuss? competition is what gets a man ahead.
 

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This is better than the silent guy that says WOW , COOL or nothing at all.
I can relate to this.
 

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Originally posted by DeathDealer
If he's always trying to tell a better story in a more flamboyant and louder way, then that could be that he's trying to out do you.

yes he does.

Yes, I have friends that copy my ****y/funny routeins and ways with women. Sometimes I even hear new stuff from them that is pretty good. It's a form of flattery afterall.
i agree i suppose.
 
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