Do younger women value the man being the boss?

[Atom Smasher]

As I read all the drama going on in this forum, it sometimes occurs to me that at age 52 I have it pretty good. For starters, I remember how utterly screwed up girls were when I was in my 20s, and I can easily see that you guys have it much worse than I did. They are screwed up times 100 today (feminism).

But in my age group (I have to date much younger because I am so young in looks and body language, so let's say late 30s and 40s), I have noticed that women LOVE the fact that I declare who wears the pants in the relationship and I enforce it. They value this because they have largely lost the infection of femminism, athough there are usually some traces which are easily dealt with. The ones who don't like this are NEXTED immediately.

I've found that by exhibiting leadership qualities to the point of getting her to verbally assent to my leadership, my value goes through the roof with them, presumably because this is so rare. They are used to men who are afraid to offend, and I blatantly demonstrate that I'm not afraid to offend them.

Sometimes their jaw drops at first, but once they process it you can almost see those little hearts floating out of her like in a cartoon when a girl falls in love.

I'm rambling a little too much here; sorry. Hey, that's what we old-timers like to do!

At any rate, it seems to me that you younger guys can in no way get away with this in your age group. Is this true? I think I'm asking out of curiosity more than anything else. Enlighten me, fellas.

 

[Lexington]

Despite the wide prevalence of feminist views among girls today, most of them are attracted to a man who leads. They want manly men. That's why jerks, a$$holes and thugs are considered so attractive. As much as they say they want to be in charge, the truth is that women want the man to take the leadership role.

I've noticed that women are much more submissive when you're older. That's part of the reason why a lot of women are attracted to older men. I'm 25 and I've noticed than when I meet 19-22 year olds, they readily hand over the leadership role. But 24-29 year old women tend to be far more aggressive with me. I have to work a little harder to take charge.

Basically, all girls want to be led. But they are more accepting of your leadership if you are older and more mature than they are. If you are the same age or younger, they put up more of a fight. But if you are strong, they will all willingly submit.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Interesting. I hadn't thought of the age difference factor. Thanks for the insight.

 

[DanelMadr]

Generally speaking there is more social pressure on girls to act more dominant and less feminine. And I don't mean just media but family also. They see their father to be pvssy whipped and disrespected and assume it is normal behavior. But I believe for most of them it is just a thin psychological makeup and when they are in touch with their core, they do appreciate "dominance". After all, this site is about being that Man.

Today you need to overcome that "I'm independent and strong" act.
Maybe it is worse these days because roles are more balanced. No wars, life is easy. Men don't have so many reasons to be manly. Thats what is different, I think.

In my country military service was compulsory (not now) for 1 year BUT many guys of my generation avoided it on medical terms or ideological/religion terms (1+1/2 year of civil/community service). And I can tell you even 18 year old girls start to treat you differently when they learn you did the military duty. I mean back in 40's 50's 60's 70's girls could still give men credit just for being men because it was assumed they are warriors. Now you have to prove yourself more I guess:yawn:

I don't think it is bad now. Actually I think it is better than ever. More freedom and prosperity to have more time for chicks....and less competition - now when it is OK to dress like a gay and act like a pvssy, you stand out if you behave and look like real deal.

Good luck with your quest. I may just hope I will be still in a shape like you in my 50s. Either that or dead with my life style I suppose :crackup:

 

[zekko]

Basically, all girls want to be led. But they are more accepting of your leadership if you are older and more mature than they are.

If you are competent in your leadership they will trust you and settle in to it. The problem is a lot of guys in their early twenties are not very mature and aren't that good at making the right decisions. Since girls mature faster than boys, they are used to being a little ahead of guys their own age in maturity. That's why they tend to like guys who are a little older. If they are going to accept your leadership, they have to be able to trust your decisions.

 

[DanelMadr]

If you are competent in your leadership they will trust you and settle in to it. The problem is a lot of guys in their early twenties are not very mature and aren't that good at making the right decisions. Since girls mature faster than boys, they are used to being a little ahead of guys their own age in maturity. That's why they tend to like guys who are a little older. If they are going to accept your leadership, they have to be able to trust your decisions.

I wanted to respond that it is not true and that girls mature faster physically only. But thinking about it, yeah they start to think about sex earlier so maybe they do mature faster than boys in both ways.
Of course we know that is the end station for them and basically they stop evolving at that phase...being hormone ridden little girls for the rest of their lives So it is compensated ...:yes:

As a Man you need to earn some scalps or to have a great potential to be interesting to them. And earning scalps takes time. But people can be pretty smart when young and grow to some real morons these days when being stupid does not mean being eaten by a tiger...although sometimes it happens even in these days...stupid drunk college student took a swim in tigers' pool in Zoo some years ago....yes he become some tiger's chewing toy. Poor sod.

 

[zekko]

stupid drunk college student took a swim in tigers' pool in Zoo some years ago....yes he become some tiger's chewing toy. Poor sod.

Good example. Would you want to be led by this guy?
But then again, women are supposed to be attracted to risk taking behaviors, so who knows? If he would have come out of it alive, he'd have a great story to tell.

 

[DanelMadr]

Good example. Would you want to be led by this guy?
But then again, women are supposed to be attracted to risk taking behaviors, so who knows? If he would have come out of it alive, he'd have a great story to tell.

Very true.

I'd like to add here...
At least he died in interesting kind of way but I bet he soiled his pants ones he realized he won't out swim the tiger. I prefer risking for a reason, not for fame or for the sake of risking. That is stupid waste.

 

[Captain]

I don't think that age really matters, so long as the man leads strongly from the start.

 

[WORKEROUTER]

From my experience (and I'm 3 decades younger than you), you can attract the kind of women that you want.

I'm very demanding of myself, my career, and the direction of my life, and am decisive. There are plenty of women that don't care to date me (especially here in the Pacific Northwest with all the quasi-hippies and feminists), but I have found a huge number of women that want a man who can take control and has his sh*t together. Because of that I date tons of women who like being with me.

I especially like to date foreign women who weren't brought up with a false sense of entitlement and don't have an attitude.

 

[Lexington]

From my experience (and I'm 3 decades younger than you), you can attract the kind of women that you want.

I'm very demanding of myself, my career, and the direction of my life, and am decisive. There are plenty of women that don't care to date me (especially here in the Pacific Northwest with all the quasi-hippies and feminists), but I have found a huge number of women that want a man who can take control and has his sh*t together. Because of that I date tons of women who like being with me.

I especially like to date foreign women who weren't brought up with a false sense of entitlement and don't have an attitude.

I find that even those women who act all feminist will gladly submit to a strong man. They act all high and mighty, but the most attractive women are usually with dominant men.

At the end of the day, women can't fight their true nature. Women willingly submit (if only at a subconscious level) to a man who takes charge. They actually resent the overly sensitive and obedient males. They will walk all over them.

Many women will even stay with abusive husbands and they make up all kinds of rationalizations to justify staying with them. But they have nothing but scorn and contempt for indecisive and subservient men.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Regarding girls maturing faster than boys, I think it used to be that way, but no more. Or perhaps there is an intial surge of their being ahead at puberty (mostly physically), but I think as they get into their twenties men surge ahead in terms of maturity. We are held to a standard of responsibility and character growth. They are held to virtually no character-based standards at all. Just look pretty and you'll do fine. For us, life is about building character. This is a foreign concept to women. For them, it is a life of perceived entitlement.