You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
No they don't. First off I saw one guy running with his finger on the trigger, with his weapon at a 90 degree angle. So he would end up flagging any one who runs next to him. They wear there gear to loosely, like there backs are to low. They look untrained.nzsnowman said:They look like a very organised fighting force...
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VikingKing said:No they don't. First off I saw one guy running with his finger on the trigger, with his weapon at a 90 degree angle. So he would end up flagging any one who runs next to him. They wear there gear to loosely, like there backs are to low. They look untrained.
Sitting there are firing Ak 47s at the rapid rate is a waste of ammunition and inaccurate. These guys are spraying and praying at best.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.