"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Do you want to be happy?

Jean Valjean

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I read alot about not having relationships etc. just play alot of women. But are you happy. Research now conclusively states that happiness is not aquestion of how much wealth you have nor of how much you have achieved, rather it is a dependent on two things that everyone here seems to miss
1. your general outlook on life
2. the quality of the relationships around you

In other words the DJ philosophy can lead you to a world of loneliness and unhappiness particularly if you see women as the enemy or refuse to develop
strong, deep and meaningful relationships.

I often read how theDJs here constantly say that life is hell or suck it up, move on etc. etc. Conquering a woman may bring a temporary high but lead to constant lows in the aftermath.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Rollo Tomassi

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Jean Valjean said:
In other words the DJ philosophy can lead you to a world of loneliness and unhappiness particularly if you see women as the enemy or refuse to develop strong, deep and meaningful relationships.
Why should a person's overall happiness be gauged upon some arbitrary scale of strength, depth or meaningfulness in relationships? What if my definition of happiness is having several non-exclusive women in my life at any given time? I'm just throwing this out there to illustrate that some people don't base their happiness upon what someone else lacks for their own.


Jean Valjean said:
I often read how the DJs here constantly say that life is hell or suck it up, move on etc. etc. Conquering a woman may bring a temporary high but lead to constant lows in the aftermath.
Perhaps, if you fail to kill your inner AFC, 'conquer a woman' (see male feminization terminology) with your scripted PUA skills and then revert back to being exactly the kind of chump women despise in the aftermath.

Don't worry though, I'm sure IQQI or one of her sycophants will be along soon enough to (once again) validate your suspicions of SS misogyny.
 

piranha45

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Jean Valjean, you clearly do not understand the DJ philosophy; you are basing your arguments on incorrect assumptions you have made about it.

Learn it before you burn it, is that so hard to pick up on? You haven't learned it, so don't waste time trying to burn it.


Educate yourself, for christs sake, so you don't waste everyone's time with having to rebut your inapplicable arguments. There might be 30 freakin rebuttals to this waste of a thread you just made, all because you're too lazy to do any actual research on the DJ philosophy. Shame on you.
 

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I'm in a LTR now, and have been for quite some time. Best relationship of my life. So I'm not a player. But when I was younger I did play the field when I wasn't attached and tried my hand at pickup.

Honestly, even though I was going out with a lot of different women and getting sex and variety, I never found it satisfying. I find the LTR much more fulfilling. But you can't find that one girl if you don't do a lot of interviews and take advantage of the opportunities when they come along.
 

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the DJ philosophy can lead you to a world of loneliness and unhappiness particularly if you see women as the enemy or refuse to develop
strong, deep and meaningful relationships.
I have developed many deep and meaningful relationships. They just have a high turnover rate :)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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