I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I've used it to start conversations with women I've met in groups of friends which has led to dates. However, I've used it more to raise interest in women who I perceive are interested in dating me, or are already dating. Making vague status updates that may or may not pertain to them gets their brains running and wondering if the post was about them.Is it still relevant to picking up women?
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Back in college I found it a valuable tool to mingle within my extended social group, people knew of me and I could add a hottie from my area and at least get her number a lot of the time! At the moment I don't have that extended social circle that I once had.I've used it to start conversations with women I've met in groups of friends which has led to dates. However, I've used it more to raise interest in women who I perceive are interested in dating me, or are already dating. Making vague status updates that may or may not pertain to them gets their brains running and wondering if the post was about them.
Totally agree man, would love to see people wake up and realize its a huge waste of time but probably never gunna happen. Crazy the sh1t people post just to get a little attention.I use fb for business reasons and messenger with friends I met travelling. Rarely post updates.
Use whatsapp for texting friends and plates.
Instagram for business also.
I'm beginning to believe that the majority of people live for social media and posting to tell people what they are doing. It's kind of sad.
Also scary is the fact that life pre-social media is pretty much long gone and kind of alien. The exception to this is fathers and grandfathers. they seem content to live life without this.
I would happily see FB demolished.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Pretty much the same reasons why I'm on Instagram and not on Facebook. I like checking out company's profiles for review of products or features of what they're working on. I can sift through pictures without having to read a wall of text or confusing status updates. For example, I just earned my PADI open water scuba diving certification. I have my soft gear (fins, booties, gloves, snorkel, mask), now I have to get my hard gear (BCD, computer, regulators, cylinder tank). Facebook seems to always post pointless memes and political opinions---so I stay off FB.I do think that Instagram is pretty cool though. It's easy to access and follow people who have the same interests as mine. I'm pretty big into Tattoo's, Art and photography so it's great to share ideas with each other and be inspired by other people's approach to things creatively.
Compare this to Facebook and I notice that quite a few of my FB 'friends' just post the same generic run of the mill blah blah blah.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Are you doing this to interest women, or because you have a kick a$$ life anyway?Helps a lot these days when you're gaming younger (18-22) attractive women, have a nice Instagram account with 1k+ followers and you doing interesting ****, then you'll definitely have some options.
This is one of the reasons I no longer go on social media. Psuedo-intellectual garbage from douchebags. I'm putting my old high school crowd in the rear view mirror!To tell girls from my high school who voted for Hillary they are fat now? Yes.
To get dates with thin girls? No.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.