Do you think women enjoy taking care of their man? Or do they prefer to be taken care of?

[FlexpertHamilton]

In this context I mean things like, cooking, picking up the tab, planning dates, small favors, "nurturing", giving rides, etc none of which are mutually exclusive with leading.

At first glance it seems like men should be taking care of the women, but on further examination it screams "provider" and framing her as a queen.

If a woman voluntarily "takes care of you" while you're still leading and in control, it seems perfect to me. You don't have anything to prove, you know your presence is enough. That's not to say you can't or shouldn't do things for her (like an oil change), merely that they never be done with any ulterior motive ie gaining her affection/approval, and doing them because you genuinely want to.

 

[EyeBRollin]

In this context I mean things like, cooking, picking up the tab, planning dates, small favors, "nurturing",

Women should be cooking, nurturing, and helping their man. They should not be paying, planning, or “taking the lead” on anything unless their man instructs or has given the green light to take initiative on some menial tasks. I don’t know how gender roles have become so contorted in 2022. Men need to man the fvck up and lead their women. Women are security seeking creatures that are limited in what they can accomplish without male leadership.

Feminine women are aware of this fact. They take care of their men because that is what is required for them to receive security from a quality man.

 

[IKO69]

Some are raised to think they should and then there are those who might not be as much, but they do so when they find a great guy and want to keep him.

Feminists, or women who scoff at any of this in general are not good long term prospects. They are good for a roll in the hay with and nothing more. You don't want to be in a relationship with a woman who think she is the **** and will want to keep your balls in her purse. There's nothing 'sexy' about strong (code word for bitchy and domineering) women turn everything into competition / make things a power struggle.

Women actually resent men they can bully and lead, but a lot will seek men like this out because they are mentally distorted. They are sick - so those men can only expect chaos.

 

[Gamisch]

She takes care of you= high interest
You taking care of her= low(er) interest

Black and white , but even if she is unable to take care of you it's not a good sign. (Problably due to not being able to take care of her self). And even if you take care of her there should be a trade off, and that better be more then just s3x.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

Women should be cooking, nurturing, and helping their man. They should not be paying, planning, or “taking the lead” on anything unless their man instructs or has given the green light to take initiative on some menial tasks. I don’t know how gender roles have become so contorted in 2022. Men need to man the fvck up and lead their women. Women are security seeking creatures that are limited in what they can accomplish without male leadership.

Feminine women are aware of this fact. They take care of their men because that is what is required for them to receive security from a quality man.

I would agree that women should not be planning, a better example would "suggesting" dates, which I personally like since it's annoying af to have to come up with all the ideas.

I don't understand why any guy would insist on paying every time. Even if money wasn't a concern, it creates this strange situation where the other person feels the need to reciprocate. I personally don't want a girl to ever feel like she owes me intimacy out of obligation.

 

[Kotaix]

She takes care of you= high interest
You taking care of her= low(er) interest

Black and white , but even if she is unable to take care of you it's not a good sign. (Problably due to not being able to take care of her self). And even if you take care of her there should be a trade off, and that better be more then just s3x.

This is 100% true. My gf goes out of her way to treat me well. She likes to plan a the details of a vacation plan, and I let her do it because she is very much type A; and I really don't care because she consults with me before any plans are final.

It really comes down to if you're not willing to put up with controlling behavior and engage in confrontation if this does happen. If you're willing to walk at any time instead of engaging in supplicating behavior in order to preserve the relationship, then there is no problem.