Do You Think This Girl Still Likes Me?

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Ok so I need some help trying to figure this out. This is pretty long too so I hope you can bare with me. Back in November, I got this job and about a week or two later this girl who I noticed starts working there aswell. she walks by and looks at me and smiles. I smile back. at that point Im like "yea im in."

So the next day we actually start working together. I just do alittle small talk but the day after that she comes near my area and without her knowing I put my arm around her and say "wassup." At first she looked hesitant but then smiles. So about a month of talking to her and getting to know her. the end of December comes and we get fired. Not really fired just we have to wait for them to call us back to work again because everyone that started working their from October - December were only seasonal employees. She got called back 2nd week of January. I didn't come back until about early feburary.

So im thinking she's really missing me that whole month and a half of not seeing her. And youre probably wondering how I figure? well I saw her on the bus that I take to get to work. Im thinking wait. her mom takes her to work. why is she on the bus? but she didn't take the bus all the way to work. she got off half way there. she did this twice. Now I know what you're gonna say and im regretting it to as to "Why didn't you sit next to her." one and only reason. I swear I did not know it was her. if I had known it was her I would have gotten her number then and there. but ohwell, you cant reverse the past. Also we don't see each other at work hardly at all anymore because we work in different areas. Only time I can really see her is if I wait for her before or after work.

I waited for her after work a week later and she said wassup to me. i said wassup and told her when they had called me back so she wouldn't think i was intentionally avoiding her. ok so fast forward to 3 weeks ago I asked her what she was doing the next day she told me that she had to do something (I don't remember what, I didn't really care lol.). I asked her if she wanted to chill. she said no she had to do it after work. she leaves and before leaving she excitingly screams. "BYE RAY!" Im thinking shes happy that I asked her out.

So another week without seeing her, waiting to go into work she sits next to me. I say wassup, we small talk and I hug her before I go into work. (to show I care for her.) after work I wait for her. there's a lot of people around and I asked to see her phone. her friend then says "Are you trying to put your number in there? shes taken." her friend even says my name. Now I don't even know this chick so she was obviously talking about me to her friend. probably about when I asked her out. Anyway I don't think anything of it and hand her her phone back. I then give her my phone, she say "what am I supposed to do with this?" I say "put your number in it." she does and minutes later a guy comes out and the the friend say "that's her boyfriend." he starts talking to her and then he leaves. Im thinking they cant be too deep in a relationship with interactions like that. they didn't even hug. they just talked and he left.

Anyways, when she left I texted her asking what she was doing the next day. she said "going out with my friend for his birthday." im thinking the same guy that her friend said was her boyfriend. I reply "Ok". Two days later I accidentally call her which I didn't mean to. I don't think she picked up though and when I saw her two days later she acted like she didn't want to say anything to me, like she was nervous and barely wanted to hug me when I leaned in to hug her. that really kinda got under my skin and got me thinking like "if you don't wanna hang out and you have a supposed boyfriend then why should I waste my time." Maybe im just not asking her out the right way. instead of asking what shes doing I should just ask her to hang out with me. its been over a week since ive contacted her. I even deleted her number because I didn't want to accidentally end up calling her.

Maybe im over-reacting. do you think I did the right thing though by deleting her number? do you think she is still interested in me? and do you think that this guy is the reason why she's acting like this towards me?

would love your thoughts.

 

[VladPatton]

You Need A Formula

You did nothing, so you got nothing. You didn't ask her out. Not hang, chill, but go out on a date. You have to make this clear. This is a lost cause, abandon hope with this one. For next time, get the digits, by asking a girl directly. Be blunt, be in her face, be to the point:

"Hey my stop is next, can I have your number?"

This puts pressure on her to give it to you right there, or say no. Then you leave it alone for a few days. No cutesy texts! Keep it purposeful. You then text her to do something:

"I just dropped a friend and I'm thinking of getting a coffee at XXXX, wanna join me?"

Or you ask next time you see her in person. Big fückin deal, man. This is just some chick that gets your dıck momentarily hard. You need to see if she wants to ride the bone train. So,,,

If she says no, wait for a counter offer. If you don't get one, it's strike one. Ask again a few days later, and gauge her reply: Yes, an excuse, or an excuse with no counteroffer?

If she bullshıts you again, delete, she's not interested. Strike two. Done. Talk to her about the weather when you see her, that's it. Don't be butthurt. Act as if you never asked her out.

See, you gotta be bold, direct, and ask outright. Don't be afraid to show you like a chick and you wanna bone her. No crime in that. Wussies *****foot, not men. If things don't work out for you, it's cool, and you pursuit stops. There's other girls out there.

All this beats the shıt out of wondering if you did it right, wrong, said something, forgot to say something, all that. This way, it's quick, there's no mistakes, it's pragmatic, and 100% to the point. You will never be left with questions even again.

We've all been there, man. Now you know. Better luck in the future.

 

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So theres no hope of me getting with this chick anymore you think?