"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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do you think that hot(HB8+) girls have worse personalities? are they worse for LTRs?

devilkingx2

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I think so,

in the real world the main factor is self-esteem, so you'll find HB4s who think they're kate upton lookalikes and HB9s who think that a balding man 200 pound 4'11 man is the best they can get'

however, a normal person's self-esteem is not random, so 9/10 hot girls will think they're the **** because of it, and 9/10 girls who are HB7's and below will be more down to earth and humble

so the question is... do you think hot girls generally have worse personalities? do you think that it would for example be better to have an LTR with a HB7 than an HB9?

TL;DR: I think hot girls put you through more BS because they either think or know that they can do whatever because betas set the precedent and that this makes them worse for relationships, what do you think?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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youngmack

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In my opinion,you would have better luck being in a LTR with HB1-7 than HB8+ .There are some personality differences between the two, but the threshold is not that broad. These two groups of girls can both be susceptible to the same level of emotional issues and personality disorders.

Uglier girls can have self esteem issues just as pretty girls do. In fact most ugly girls feel very insecure about themselves because they think they're ugly.Those same self esteem issues can leak into and affect other areas of their lives which in turn can affect the quality of their relationships. Say you have a pretty girl and a ugly girl.

The ugly girl got sexually abused during her childhood,but the pretty girl didn't. Would you pick the ugly girl over the prettier one because shes uglier and more likely to have a better personality? Nah. But overall ugly girls more likely to be LTR material than pretty girls but we should not generalize this too much.

I think we should break it down on a case by case basis. Especially with how corrupt society is today,any girl ugly or not can end up not being LTR material
 

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fvcking ugly >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> HOT
sane >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>insane

^ nice diagram sums it up
 

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youngmack said:
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Uglier girls can have self esteem issues just as pretty girls do. In fact most ugly girls feel very insecure about themselves because they think they're ugly.Those same self esteem issues can leak into and affect other areas of their lives which in turn can affect the quality of their relationships.
depends on what kind low self-esteem, and I actually meant that low self-esteem is more common and makes more sense in ugly or average girls as opposed to beauty queens

as I see it there are two kinds of low self-esteem, passive and aggressive

passive low self-esteem is the girl that needs you to constantly reassure her about... everything, it's the girl who is insecure about your relationship but doesn't dare bother you about it

its the girl who thinks you're too good for her and makes up for it by trying hard to please you, and shes also very agreeable and its easy to get her to do stuff.

the other kind is pretty much the same thing, but instead of dealing with her insecurity by trying to please you she deals with it by being an intolerable drama causing *****

youngmack said:
.Say you have a pretty girl and a ugly girl.

The ugly girl got sexually abused during her childhood,but the pretty girl didn't. Would you pick the ugly girl over the prettier one because shes uglier and more likely to have a better personality? Nah. But overall ugly girls more likely to be LTR material than pretty girls but we should not generalize this too much.

I think we should break it down on a case by case basis. Especially with how corrupt society is today,any girl ugly or not can end up not being LTR material
if she was sexually abused wouldn't that make her sluttier? sounds like a pro.

but no these things aren't absolute but its about general trends

besides, its not a dichotomy there are girls who are neither particularly ugly nor particularly hot

if you google average girl, one out of every 20 or so images should show you what I mean


switch said:
fvcking ugly >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> HOT
sane >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>insane

^ nice diagram sums it up
it's not that ugly chicks aren't crazy, its that ugly chicks are invisible and the few that you do deal with don't get as much leeway as the hot ones, so they don't seem as crazy because you don't let it get as out of hand(there are ugly BPDs, but the only reason anyone puts up with BPDs is because a lot of them are hot)
 

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Hotter the women the more options she normally has. As. Options go up so does loyalty go down.

But I guess loyalty depends on how she was raised.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I say forget worrying about her beauty dictating her personality, that takes too much thought. Get yourself to be yr best, in every way, become the Don Juan archetype and so on, and any woman, no matter how hot she is, as long as she has an ounce of sanity in her, will fix all her flaws to match you, and keep you.

By being the ultimate Don Juan (it sounds cheesy but I can't think of another term) you'll be her inspiration, father like figure, goal and everything else she wants. What would you do if something like that entered yr life? The same I'm guessing. So there you have it.
 
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