Do you think some women think that their husband is only worthy of them when fat, but not when hot?

[MatureDJ]

I was reading this, and it got me interested.

My Wife Has Turned Into a Hot, Unavailable Robot

I've been patient.

slate.com

My wife and I are in our 40s, and since 2020 she gained 31 pounds. She looked so different from how she was when we married that I lost the attraction. I explained to her about the weight and how unhealthy it was, and she agreed to make changes.

It worked though and she’s much healthier now. I’m incredibly attracted to her. I notice other guys in public checking her out, and I’m ready to turbocharge our sex life. But she complains she’s “too tired” all the time, and when we do have sex there’s no energy or creativity. She used to plan stuff, dress up, etc., but now she’s so picky. She only wants missionary with the lights off, sometimes under a blanket, and only if she can be on one specific side of the bed.

In fact, I rarely even get to see her naked. Instead of showing off her new body, she’s always wrapped in big sweatshirts or fleece leggings. When I encouraged her to dress better, she made excuses about being cold (in July?). She falls asleep instantly after sex and often acts as if she’d rather be asleep than fûcking. It feels like my wife has been replaced by a hot, unavailable robot. How do I get us back to our 2019 sex life?

 

[The Duke]

Who knows what women think. But I know what this man should do.

 

[EyeBRollin]

No. I think it is much simpler.

Women are lazy as fvck. They want to snag the best guy they can for the least amount of work. Once they get him, they want to do no work at all. All their lives they have been told that man is to do everything take them as they are. How dare she have to do anything!

 

[Mike32ct]

No. I think it is much simpler.

Women are lazy as fvck. They want to snag the best guy they can for the least amount of work. Once they get him, they want to do no work at all. All their lives they have been told that man is to do everything take them as they are. How dare she have to do anything!

I was thinking about too. She might resent him for "pressuring her" into all that weight loss. She can't "enjoy" her "victory" because it wasn't her own.

 

[The Duke]

I'm sure she is self-conscious about her body and its possible she resents her husband for not accepting her for who she is.

I told my exwife she needed to lose some weight so she did and she looked really good. 1.5yrs later I divorced her because she cheated on me. I guess she showed me! lol.

 

[EyeBRollin]

I'm sure she is self-conscious about her body and its possible she resents her husband for not accepting her for who she is.

Fvck that. I don’t know where women get off thinking men have to “accept” anything.

 

[Hal9000]

Hate to tell this guy but he didn't marry a fit chick who got fat, he married a fat chick who was pretending to be a fit one. Happens all the time. Women get single, get fit, and then start sucking down the twinkies as soon as they get a man locked down. Its practically a guarantee. And its only going to get worse for him now that he's called her out. She may lose the weight, and even keep it off, but she will resent him forever and will eventually throw it in his face when the moments right for her.